Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater!

[angels&angles]

He does, but he has on occasion encouraged actual cheating. And I'm not sure that saying 'i'm going to do it' and then doing it even if your partner says 'that's not ok' is much better, but eh. I'm in a non-monogamous relationship, so it's not an issue for me at this point. (Yeah you can cheat in that kind of relationship, but it's not a concern in mine.)

Well, my understanding at least is that if the spouse says "no," then you have the choice of A. leaving; B. staying faithful, maybe working out the issues in the relationship, maybe not; C. cheating anyway. None of those are good options, anyway, but at least you gave your spouse all the information.

I was in a non-exclusive relationship for a while, but it didn't work for me. I told the guy that I couldn't handle it, and we are now exclusive. Some people need/want/can handle that kind of relationship. It turns out I can't.

I wonder if this almost defeats the fetish. Like... it's too easy.

I'm not sure if cuckoldry fetishists care HOW they're cuckolded. For some it may be the whole sneaking-around thing, but to my admittedly limited knowledge, a lot of the thrill comes simply from watching some dude bang your wife (or knowing that some dude is banging your wife).

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by angels&angles

Well, my understanding at least is that if the spouse says "no," then you have the choice of A. leaving; B. staying faithful, maybe working out the issues in the relationship, maybe not; C. cheating anyway. None of those are good options, anyway, but at least you gave your spouse all the information.

Right, I just don't quite buy the 'the relationship is better together with the lie (that the partner never knows)' idea. Maybe I'm wrong, or naive, and I fully acknowledge that with the social stigmas in place, cheating may at least SEEM like the least of all evils, I'm just not sold.

However overall I fall under 'more communication is better' even if it's things you don't want to have to talk about, like.. hey I'm not sexually satisfied and I want someone who will flog me with a high heeled shoe.

I'm not sure if cuckoldry fetishists care HOW they're cuckolded. For some it may be the whole sneaking-around thing, but to my admittedly limited knowledge, a lot of the thrill comes simply from watching some dude bang your wife (or knowing that some dude is banging your wife).

Oh I'm sure it depends on the person and the individual kink.


ETA

I was in a non-exclusive relationship for a while, but it didn't work for me. I told the guy that I couldn't handle it, and we are now exclusive. Some people need/want/can handle that kind of relationship. It turns out I can't.

Well, my partner was already married when we met so, if I decide that it doesn't work for me, then the relationship will likely - 99.999999% - end. I doubt there'll be a divorce, and I'm not in the relationship expecting one.