Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater!

[Drolefille]

You know it's interesting, one sex advice columnist sometimes discusses cheating as a way to save a marriage. He's pretty anti-monogamy in general, but his philosophy on it is that if everything else is great, and it's JUST sex that you're needing from somewhere else then isn't it better to cheat than to get divorced assuming your partner won't open up the relationship.

I'm not a big fan of that myself, but I see the point. I'd rather that people go into relationships knowing what they want AND acknowleding that they will change over time and trusting each other enough to talk about whatever's going on and whether their needs are being met. That's not reality for everyone though. And society does stigmatize divorce (some families and cultures more than others) as well as non-monogamy.

I understand why some people feel like cheating is their only option and why others just don't care about their partners, but I don't think that it excuses it. This website, eh, they're going to do it on craigslist or somewhere, in some ways they're being MORE honest like Dee noted, so you know I hope it works out for them, because it looks like they'll be unhappy to me.

[33girl]

You mean Savage Love?

People have had marriages that are basically business arrangements where each partner does their own thing (sexually and otherwise) for ages and ages. Like most other things, it is not news, just the openness about it is.

Also, some people do have a fetish in which they WANT to get cheated on. Wouldn't be surprised if more than a few of them are utilizing this site.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by 33girl

You mean Savage Love?

People have had marriages that are basically business arrangements where each partner does their own thing (sexually and otherwise) for ages and ages. Like most other things, it is not news, just the openness about it is.

Also, some people do have a fetish in which they WANT to get cheated on. Wouldn't be surprised if more than a few of them are utilizing this site.

Dan Savage, yes. And while it's true that some people have that type of marriage, there's still a stigma against specifically approving of cheating rather than diligently overlooking it.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by 33girl

You mean Savage Love?

People have had marriages that are basically business arrangements where each partner does their own thing (sexually and otherwise) for ages and ages. Like most other things, it is not news, just the openness about it is.

Yeah, I read that write up in Savage Love.

To be fair, the whole concept of "marrying for love" is not necessarily universal. A lot of marriages happen for political or economic alliances. Look at all of the royal marriages from way back. You "marry" for what it can do for political or economic advancement and then you have your piece(s) on the side.... (thinking back to that movie, "The Other Boleyn Girl").