Address the situation
I would try to address the rumor with the sorority members if I had such a relationship with them to give my spin on the situation. For example, I had an RA come to me to nip a situation in the bud ith a younger African-American female that lived on another floor. Apparently, she was being very LOOSE and engaging in extrememly risky sexual behavior and word was getting around.
So after meeting her through him, we exchanged numbers and began to hang out every now and then, then we would get together for lunch and/or dinner and she began to open up to me. What I found out was his young woman was having problems coping with college life, being away from home and issues going on at home. I begin to help her through these issues as well as others. Needless to say her negative behaviors changed into more positive.
While perception is everything, is anything ALWAYS what it really seems? Had I thought so much about myself that I didn't associate with her, she may/may not be the person she is today....and that was nine years ago. She eventually became my apartment mate throughout the remainer of my college years. We still speak frequently and have kept in contact through at least 10 moves between us.
Don't we all have friends/assocaites that could learn from us? Sometimes those that befriend us can be MIRACLES in making us a better person.
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