Need advice for legacy.

[FSUZeta]

as the mother of a legacy myself(who is now an alum.),i would say reminding your daughter to find the sorority where she will feel the most comfortable and reminding her to keep an open mind are important. Also let her know that her legacy chapter does not have keep inviting her back, so if they do, it is because they really like her.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Also let her know that her legacy chapter does not have keep inviting her back, so if they do, it is because they really like her.

This.

I would say that the biggest change in the past 25 years is the number of legacies participating in recruitment. Whereas in the past being a legacy could almost guarantee a bid, at many schools through the south (and some in the north) this is far from the case. It is not uncommon to have more legacies to a chapter participating in recruitment than what quota winds up being. It becomes a numbers game on the limited number of invites that a chapter can give to their legacies.

Therefore, if the legacy group does release your daughter, please understand that it may be simply due to the high number of other legacies particpating, and NOT because they didn't like her. Yes, it hurts both the mom and the daughter to be released. Recognizing that it could be a possiblity before recruitment even starts may help to reduce the sting and lessen the shock. Recognizing that it may be a possibility may also help the daughter look at ALL groups on campus from the beginning.

And, to reiterate what FSUZeta said, if they do offer a bid to your daughter then she can know it was because they liked her for HER and not because of you.

Best of luck!