Dear Troll

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Splash

Absolutely false. And I don't think Greekchat is the best place to go for this advice, because as you said we're all strangers, but I understand the rationale. You're probably not going to talk to your sisters about it and sometimes family or other friends isn't right either. It's anonymous and most likely a GLO member. General advice can be offered.

Going to your big and saying "I don't feel like I'm fitting in" or "I don't know if Greek life is for me" is what should be done. That's why posters have fun with those kinds of posts -- we're not the people that "potential dropees" need to be speaking with.

People dropped/resigned before GC was around. These newer members need to be able to function without the site.

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Going to your big and saying "I don't feel like I'm fitting in" or "I don't know if Greek life is for me" is what should be done. That's why posters have fun with those kinds of posts -- we're not the people that "potential dropees" need to be speaking with.

People dropped/resigned before GC was around. These newer members need to be able to function without the site.

Technology has made folks weaker.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

Technology has made folks weaker.

That still doesn't make coddling our responsibility

GC and the internet were around when I pledged, but talking to people who were directly involved in my process was not a foreign concept. That seems to be the case these days, though.

[ASTalumna06]

When I was an advisor, there was a girl in my chapter who wanted to “drop.” She was seriously considering it. She didn’t know if she could meet the financial obligations, and she said she didn’t feel like she was fitting in. She didn’t initiate with her class, which was her decision (and it was approved by National Staff), and she had many doubts. But eventually she decided to initiate, the chapter had a small ceremony for her, and she’s been happy as a clam ever since.

So yes, it IS possible for new members/sisters to think about resigning, but then to come to the realization that it's not as bad as they thought.

However, this girl went to her big first, then to the president, and the president directed her to the chapter advisor. She discussed everything with SISTERS whom she KNOWS, and then she thought long and hard ON HER OWN and decided that she wanted to stick it out. She didn’t come to a public message board and ask whether or not she should initiate or go her separate way.

The people who do come here regarding such matters remind me of the trolls who ask for advice, then get mad when you don’t tell them what they want to hear. I feel like the troll who is here asking if they should resign already KNOWS that they really want to, they’re just looking for reassurance that it’s the right thing to do.