Bid mismatch / computer error?

[skkx3]

The girl who told me I received all 10's on a scale from 0-10 was in the sorority and spoke to each member separately and they assured her that is what they ranked me. I just don't understand how I could not match up with one of the them.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by skkx3

The girl who told me I received all 10's on a scale from 0-10 was in the sorority and spoke to each member separately and they assured her that is what they ranked me. I just don't understand how I could not match up with one of the them.

How do you know? Because that's what you were told?

Yes, errors occur. I'm not saying that they don't.

But really, 99.9% of the time, the girl WAS cut and her friend in the chapter will try to save face and not hurt her feelings by saying "ohmygosh, I'm so sorry. Everybody really liked you. They ranked you all 10s, I swear!"

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by skkx3

The girl who told me I received all 10's on a scale from 0-10 was in the sorority and spoke to each member separately and they assured her that is what they ranked me. I just don't understand how I could not match up with one of the them.

I'm not going to say much about membership selection, but suffice it to say that one woman with a bad impression of you can have a much greater effect than ten who think you are great. That one woman need not be an active collegian at this particular chapter.

Other possibilities:

1) You were dropped for grades
2) You didn't have recs at a school that requires recs
3) The chapter made a mistake in preparing their invite list

Getting dropped from all chapters is rare, in most formal recruitments, if you attended all parties to which you were invited and generally had good manners, etc. However, it does happen. I would have to assume that the Greek Advisor or someone like that double-checked the invite lists before you received the phone call.

ALL THAT SAID...sometimes women fall through the cracks, and chapters may have liked you, but just had more great girls than invites to give out. If you are truly just the unlucky PNM who didn't match this time around, nothing should preclude you from giving it another shot.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I would have to assume that the Greek Advisor or someone like that double-checked the invite lists before you received the phone call.

This is the case at most schools with which I am familiar.

It's the worst thing EVER to have to tell a PNM that they have been totally released from recruitment.

Generally, people will double and TRIPLE check that PNM's name to make sure that she has no invites (because you really don't want to have to make that call.)

Ex: If Suzie Smith has no invites, her Rho Chi, the Panhellenic VP of Recruitment, and the Greek Advisor are going to check Suzie Smith's invite list and make sure.

They check for common mistakes like "Did the Rho Chi spell Suzie's name wrong when looking for her list?" or "Is there ANOTHER Suzie Smith in recruitment with no invites?"