Is a "Pimps and Ho's Party" disrepectful??? - Page 12

ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl · #1 02-21-2007, 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by sirfratalot

the fact that you think "pimps and hoes" caters to any race being singled out really exposes who is racist.

The fact is that today people are so ridiculously sensitive and PC that they will, in fact, claim it's racist and demeaning. Looking out to avoid bad PR is important to anyone, but especially Greeks, since we aren't given the benefit of the doubt.

Personally I think people are TOO PC these days and I wouldn't find that party offensive. It's obviously meant in fun. If you think your chapter is going to be watched by media or such, then maybe pick something different. But I don't care what you pick, someone can find a problem with it...if it's meant in fun, then it's fun, not offensive and it's a shame some people did it that way.

Also about the trophy wife thing...it doesn't annoy me for a girl want to be a trophy wife. It's just a way to be wealthy and have a cushy lifestyle, and if they're willing to give up some of their personal freedoms and personality, what do I care? It's their choice. It isn't for me, but hey. Being a housewife is a whole different story...I wouldn't find a facebook group about wanting to be a housewife as offensive as someone finding that group itself offensive, implying that being a housewife is an unworthy occupation. I know my mom for one, between having day jobs, worked just as hard and as many hours as my dad. It's a job, and someone has to do it in a marriage or partnership. Traditional domestic roles work for some families, and that's fine...I joke about an "MRS" degree, even though truth be told there's no way I'd get married without earning my degree, but I wouldn't mind being a housewife one day when I've had kids and a husband with a job. I just think in today's world, with a 50% divorce rate, women who are depending on a husband should make sure they have a college degree just in case.

PeppyGPhiB · #2 02-21-2007, 03:19 AM

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Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl

Being a housewife is a whole different story...I wouldn't find a facebook group about wanting to be a housewife as offensive as someone finding that group itself offensive, implying that being a housewife is an unworthy occupation. I know my mom for one, between having day jobs, worked just as hard and as many hours as my dad. It's a job, and someone has to do it in a marriage or partnership. Traditional domestic roles work for some families, and that's fine...I joke about an "MRS" degree, even though truth be told there's no way I'd get married without earning my degree, but I wouldn't mind being a housewife one day when I've had kids and a husband with a job. I just think in today's world, with a 50% divorce rate, women who are depending on a husband should make sure they have a college degree just in case.

Agree completely. That's what I was trying to say...most housewives are not trophy wives...they work hard for their household, and there's certainly nothing wrong with that. I don't like for them to get the "trophy wife" label since I think it diminishes their responsibilities.

AGDee · #3 02-21-2007, 06:48 AM

Let's bring it back to the old question (which we used a lot when I was a collegiate) "Would you be embarassed to show pictures/tell your grandmother about it?" If so, don't do it. It is these types of stereotypes that drag the Greek system down over and over. We all purport to have higher ideals and standards than others, so let's do things that prove it.

sirfratalot · #4 02-22-2007, 03:37 AM

^I personally think that's a horrible way to live your life lol. I've been hearing that since I was 12. If I never did anything that my parents would disapprove of, I honestly wouldn't be half the person I am today, nor would I be near as happy. Sometimes breaking the rules is half the fun.

Dionysus · #5 03-08-2007, 04:25 PM

Imma need for people to STOP bumping this thread. Die thead, die bitch!!!!

soda · #6 07-04-2007, 02:52 AM

well do the girls act like ho's at the party? if they do, then well, regardless of the name of the party your a ho anyway. but if the girls aren't hooking up w/ the guys at random well then regardless of the name...your not a ho...

deegeebaybee · #7 02-14-2007, 03:47 AM

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Originally Posted by phikappapsiman

I have to ask this...

I know that some fraternities have a "Pimps and Ho's" party. Some brothers want to bring it up to my chapter to have one, but I think that is it disrespectful, and kinda racist. Am I overreacting??? I mean, it's just for fun, but it just seems as if that is playing on bad sterotypes. What do others think??? Have we gotten so P.C. on campus that things like the KA's "Old South" party and the ever popular "Screw your Roommate" party are wrong? What do you think?

Well, i went to a non-greek pimps and hoes party and it was really boring- mostly due to it's uncreative atmosphere. but a lot of people have been giving a lot of shocked responses. Parties are all in good fun, and yes, where they may seem rather disrespectful, it's just another reason to get dressed up and add another element to a party. Yet, any way you look at it, any theme could be considered disrespectful. My sorority just had a Shipwrecked party, where we all dressed up as Pirates or sailors (fitting for Delta Gamma) or characters from Lost or Gilligan's Island, etc etc etc. People could somehow find this disrespectful because we're portraying bloodthirsty theives. But it's a costume party. Yes, there's other ways to go around the "bad" connotation such as maybe a "Saint's and Sinner's" party (so those who DON'T want to be pimps and/or hoes don't HAVE to be) or something along that line. My best suggestion is give your party a vauge theme so guests can have more options in dressing up. That way, thier creativity makes the party much more fun. Another good idea, though not as vauge, would be a "Millionaire's and Trophy Wives" party. Not as trashy, but just as fun to dress up for. hope my 2 cents helped y'all

PeppyGPhiB · #8 02-14-2007, 07:32 PM

I'm tired of party themes that require guys to dress up as something good/prestigious/powerful/upper-hand while the gals dress up as sluts/little girls/subordinates. Sorry, but Millionairs & Trophy Wives? I'd die before I would ever want to be a trophy wife, so why would I want to dress up as one? Do sorority girls really know what trophy wives are? It's a really insulting term.

macallan25 · #9 02-14-2007, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I'm tired of party themes that require guys to dress up as something good/prestigious/powerful/upper-hand while the gals dress up as sluts/little girls/subordinates. Sorry, but Millionairs & Trophy Wives? I'd die before I would ever want to be a trophy wife, so why would I want to dress up as one? Do sorority girls really know what trophy wives are? It's a really insulting term.

Oh come on, I think you are being a little ridiculous. Its a theme party...you aren't supposed to take it seriously.

UGAalum94 · #10 02-14-2007, 10:01 PM

And isn't dressing up about being able to be someone who you really aren't?

I wouldn't do "pimps and hos" in this day and age because someone's going to do something racist.

BabyPiNK_FL · #11 03-05-2007, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I'm tired of party themes that require guys to dress up as something good/prestigious/powerful/upper-hand while the gals dress up as sluts/little girls/subordinates. Sorry, but Millionairs & Trophy Wives? I'd die before I would ever want to be a trophy wife, so why would I want to dress up as one? Do sorority girls really know what trophy wives are? It's a really insulting term.

You could do something unexpected and go dressed as a millionaire! A nice no-nonsense business suit and comfortable heels. (I'm being serious). When given an opportunity, do something interesting and make people think about what they are doing. Plus you still get to enjoy the festivities!

cardeka · #12 03-07-2007, 05:25 PM

I have seen before a reverse Pimps 'n Ho's where the men are the ho's and the women are their pimps. That way it was less disrespectful and looked like A LOT of fun!!

TSteven · #13 03-08-2007, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

Let's bring it back to the old question (which we used a lot when I was a collegiate) "Would you be embarrassed to show pictures/tell your grandmother about it?"

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Originally Posted by cardeka

I have seen before a reverse Pimps 'n Ho's where the men are the ho's and the women are their pimps. That way it was less disrespectful and looked like A LOT of fun!!

My sister-in-law's chapter (she and my brother weren't married yet) had a reverse dress party back the late 1970s. It was a "Guys and Dolls" theme (attire) with a little Donna "Bad Girls" Summer thrown in for fun.

Not only did their parents see pictures of it, but thanks to a certain uncle who still thinks it is quite funny, so have their children.

fArVA · #14 03-19-2007, 10:58 PM

Hell Noooooooooooooooo

ChildoftheHorn · #15 03-23-2007, 10:06 PM

As a girl, I don't mind if it is done every once in a while - but everyone does it a lot. I mean I should hate myself for loving "To the Window, To the Wall, Till the Sweat ..." - still I cannot help but get up and dance when I hear it.

We have parties like "CEO's and their Corporate Ho's" "G.I.Joe-s and their G.I.Ho-s" "The Hoe is Down" (referring to a country Ho-Down)....then other stuff using Bit*h and Slut. A friend of mine told me about a party they had been to called "King Tut and his Queen Slut".

Seriously, I am not a feminist - but girls don't liked to be called that stuff in public. ( If you like that in private - it is your business. )