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Originally Posted by AGDee
Simultaneously? If not, then in what order?
As for the date/concert scenario... I was taught that once you make plans you keep them unless there is an emergency. If I already had plans for a date, I'd keep those plans. If I had committed to the concert first, then I'd go to the concert. It is about committing to plans with someone, not about what I'd rather do. "Sorry, something better came along so I'm ditching you tonight" is unbelievably rude.
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You're not exactly ditching them... You're saying, "Something came up.. can we reschedule?" I know that if the tables were turned, and 6 months into dating, the guy said to me, "Oh, yea.. our first date.. that was the night I was supposed to go to blah blah blah".. I'd feel terrible.
And what if the date was the worst date of your life? ..You replaced what could have been an unbelievable night, with an unbelievably horrible one. I'd be pissed at myself forever for missing the event of a lifetime for someone who means nothing to me.
And who says that you have to tell the date the reason you're cancelling, anyway? Just say your dog was stuck on some railroad tracks, you had to save him, and you'd rather stay at home with him because he's suffering from PTSD.