Dropping a Sorority

[knight_shadow]

KSUViolet's QFP is the original post.

[SMTTT]

Originally Posted by dreamseeker

*pokes you* let's qfp next time, shall we?

it's such a delightful surprise when KSU says "mean" stuff. lmao!

I've still yet to figure out what QFP means. Forgive me, I'm still new

[DDDlady]

Originally Posted by SMTTT

I've still yet to figure out what QFP means. Forgive me, I'm still new

QFP= Quoted for Posterity. Aka you said something really stupid and you can't go back and change your story because someone quoted it in all of its glory.

[als463]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I really hope the OP is ESL, otherwise, I have lost total faith in our school system...not that I had much faith to begin with when my kindergartener came home a few weeks ago and said that her teacher told the class that they can drop out of school at 16.

Are you freakin' serious? WTF is wrong with people? This person is teaching your child? I sure hope you complain about that to the school. I personally know of our Guidance Counselor telling people they should, "Just quit school because you are wasting tax payer money." I mean...really???

JUST WOW!!!

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by als463

Are you freakin' serious? WTF is wrong with people? This person is teaching your child? I sure hope you complain about that to the school.

Oh, please don't complain to the school, at least not without talking to the teacher first (not that I think AF would do that). That would be a complete over-reaction, and right off the bat in kindergarten, you'd have the teacher and the principal thinking of you as "that parent."

If you're concerned about something the teacher said, you talk to the teacher about it. Maybe the teacher really is a whack-job, but I've had plenty of experiences of my kids coming home and sharing something eyebrow-raising that the teacher said, only to ask the teacher about it and find out there was a completely different and understandable context than what my kid picked up on. Wouldn't surprise me at all if the comment came up in a context like this.

RANDOM KID: I don't like having to come to school. It should be against the law to make a kid come to school if he doesn't want to.

TEACHER: Sorry you don't like school. It's actually the law that you do have to come.

RK: That's not fair! How long before they can't make me come to school if I don't want to.

T: You have to be 16 before you can stop coming to school if you don't want to. That's a long way off, so you might as well just forget about it and learn to enjoy school.

Yep, had that conversation more than once with a certain random kid who lives at my house.

[SMTTT]

Originally Posted by DDDlady

QFP= Quoted for Posterity. Aka you said something really stupid and you can't go back and change your story because someone quoted it in all of its glory.

Thanks

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Maybe the teacher really is a whack-job, but I've had plenty of experiences of my kids coming home and sharing something eyebrow-raising that the teacher said, only to ask the teacher about it and find out there was a completely different and understandable context than what my kid picked up on. Wouldn't surprise me at all if the comment came up in a context like this.

RANDOM KID: I don't like having to come to school. It should be against the law to make a kid come to school if he doesn't want to.

TEACHER: Sorry you don't like school. It's actually the law that you do have to come.

RK: That's not fair! How long before they can't make me come to school if I don't want to.

T: You have to be 16 before you can stop coming to school if you don't want to. That's a long way off, so you might as well just forget about it and learn to enjoy school.

Yep, had that conversation more than once with a certain random kid who lives at my house.

Yep and that is one reason why K-12 schools and colleges/universities don't fly off the handle everytime a student complains about a teacher/professor or claims that a teacher/professor said or did something. Students of various ages complain about everything and sometimes exaggerate.

I had a convo like this with a random high schooler:

Random student: I hate this teacher. He's so mean and I'm not learning anything from this boring class.

Me: Wow! What is this teacher doing?

Random student: Well, all of this reading. I don't want to do all of this reading. I'm tired of being told what to do. And then he gets mad when we don't read and tries to make us take quizzes and stuff.

Me: Um...that's called TEACHING. What do you expect to have to do in school? Teachers work darn hard to prepare to teach. Why should you just get to sit there and run your mouth about nothingness?

[SigmaChiCard]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Also, sororities don't make bitches. You were likely such BEFORE you joined.

Seems uncalled for to me.

Fraternity and Sorority life isn't for everyone. The OP was simply here asking for some outside and anonymous guidance and all of you really lashed out at her. It sounds to me like she probably ended up at a house that wasn't right for her. You can't tell me that there aren't sororities on your campus that you haven't thought of as being particularly bitchy or snobbish (there were certainly sorors and fraternities alike that fit that description on my campus). You were probably just aware of it enough not to join that one. Who knows why she originally felt it right for her, whether it was the prestige, family, the boys, the parties, etc. What is clear though is that now she feels like an outsider and to rectify that has tried to fit in. Perhaps wanting to fit in is a character flaw, but I don't think so, and even if it is, she came here for advice and not to have any such feelings of inadequacy thrown back in her face. In fairness, GC wasn't really established as a support group, but rather a social group...but nevertheless I thought community support was one of the underlying beliefs of most of our organizations.

To the OP, it does sound like you've made your mind up, and it is unfortunate it didn't work out for you, but I do think you may wish to withdraw from the organization.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by SigmaChiCard

In fairness, GC wasn't really established as a support group, but rather a social group....

Exactly. Those of you who insist on coddling usernames can do so on your own GC time.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Students of various ages complain about everything and sometimes exaggerate.

Right, and when you're talking about younger kids, the exaggeration can be completely unintentional. The bit they're telling you just happens to be the one part of a larger conversation or indicent that they paid attention to or that stuck with them.