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My daughter loves the fraternity "men" who come from New Orleans. She often describes the differences between those that were raised with the courtesies that Delt Alum and Tom refer to.
I agree, that a lot of the reason for the lack of these niceties falls on the women. If you don't expect it, if you don't allow it and if you don't teach it in your own home, how is it to survive?
I have seen mothers teaching their sons to open the door for women. Many times their isn't so much as a smile much less a thank you from these "ladies". I make it a point to clearly let anyone know it is an appreciated act and depending on the age-sometimes as young as 4 or 5- I will stop and praise the son to his mother or father. We must encourage our children to be socialy skilled and more important-just plain kind.
The list-yes,some of it smacks of keeping a woman "in her place". The problem is, the counter part (what was expected of a man) isn't explained. It was, and still is, just as demanding and in many cases more stressful. Bottom line, courtesy and helping each other is one key to any successful relationship.
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