Racism at Ole Miss or Bama??

[SouthernBelle93]

Alright, I really don't know how to respond to a lot of these post, but I'm going to try.

1. I do not have a color complex.
2. I am really happy with who I am as a person.
3. I am in no way shape or form was I trying to come off like I wish I were white, I appreciate diversity and I like being different.
4. Obviously I do not know how to post..this was my first time and a lot of the things I said came out very wrong. How I was trying to say things is being twisted into something completely different than I meant.
5. Yes, I am a senior in high school and I don't think I am naive but I am well aware of the fact that I have many things to learn still.
6. I am sorry so many people are getting this upset over what I posted, but I honestly just wanted to know how difficult it was going to be getting into the sororities and I think I got my answer. difficult but not impossible.
7. I did assume that you had to look a certain way to be accepted into any of the houses but i knew other factors would go into getting a bid as well.
8. Yes i live in california now but I have visited the south before and I liked it a lot, aside from the humidity.

Hopefully everyone will calm down a little considering I meant no harm and was not trying to offend ANYONE.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by SouthernBelle93

Alright, I really don't know how to respond to a lot of these post, but I'm going to try.

1. I do not have a color complex.
2. I am really happy with who I am as a person.
3. I am in no way shape or form was I trying to come off like I wish I were white, I appreciate diversity and I like being different.
4. Obviously I do not know how to post..this was my first time and a lot of the things I said came out very wrong. How I was trying to say things is being twisted into something completely different than I meant.
5. Yes, I am a senior in high school and I don't think I am naive but I am well aware of the fact that I have many things to learn still.
6. I am sorry so many people are getting this upset over what I posted, but I honestly just wanted to know how difficult it was going to be getting into the sororities and I think I got my answer. difficult but not impossible.
7. I did assume that you had to look a certain way to be accepted into any of the houses but i knew other factors would go into getting a bid as well.
8. Yes i live in california now but I have visited the south before and I liked it a lot, aside from the humidity.

Hopefully everyone will calm down a little considering I meant no harm and was not trying to offend ANYONE.

People can get a little riled up here. Don't worry about it.

It appears from the posts such as rebelgirl's that what you need to focus on is your grades, recs, resume, and conversation skills as those things will be the most important determining factors. Concentrate on making the best grades you can the rest of this year, and start looking for recs. Use opportunities that you come across to practice small talk with strangers and acquaintances so that you'll appear confident and competent during parties (this is a good skill to develop for anyone, as it will certainly come in handy on many occasions besides recruitment).

[SouthernBelle93]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

People can get a little riled up here. Don't worry about it.

It appears from the posts such as rebelgirl's that what you need to focus on is your grades, recs, resume, and conversation skills as those things will be the most important determining factors. Concentrate on making the best grades you can the rest of this year, and start looking for recs. Use opportunities that you come across to practice small talk with strangers and acquaintances so that you'll appear confident and competent during parties (this is a good skill to develop for anyone, as it will certainly come in handy on many occasions besides recruitment).

Thank you !
I am most likely going to get a rush advisor to help me out through this. I have pretty good grades and I am extremely involved in my community as well as my school so I have more than enough on my resume. The only thing I am worried about is finding people to write my recs. I am the first person in my family who actually wants to go greek and I do not know anyone who is greek other than my friends who just got through rush this year, and are being initiated these next coming weekends.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by SouthernBelle93

Thank you !
I am most likely going to get a rush advisor to help me out through this. I have pretty good grades and I am extremely involved in my community as well as my school so I have more than enough on my resume. The only thing I am worried about is finding people to write my recs. I am the first person in my family who actually wants to go greek and I do not know anyone who is greek other than my friends who just got through rush this year, and are being initiated these next coming weekends.

Ask women you know like teachers, people you volunteer with, and people at any religious organization you belong to. You'll be surprised, because you'll encounter some sorority women. Try searching through this site, too using the search function. There are a lot of useful threads about recs. Good luck!

[DrPhil]

Yeah, this isn't an offensive topic. It is a typical topic. That little girl needs to calm down herself and figure out some things about herself before she even worries about Greekdom. That's my advice.

[SouthernBelle93]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Yeah, this isn't an offensive topic. It is a typical topic. That little girl needs to calm down herself and figure out some things about herself before she even worries about Greekdom. That's my advice.

I have no idea as to why you are such an angry post-er but I do not need you to refer to me as a "little girl," nor do I need your nasty words of "advice."

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by SouthernBelle93

I have no idea as to why you are such an angry post-er but I do not need you to refer to me as a "little girl," nor do I need your nasty words of "advice."

I'm more amused than angry. Good luck in figuring yourself out before you even look to Greekdom to accept you.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I'm more amused than angry. Good luck in figuring yourself out before you even look to Greekdom to accept you.

I have to agree with her. I can't understand the need for extremely condescending posts towards a kid who is probably 17 or 18. Of course she needs to "figure herself out", she's a teenager. The rest of them do, too. And considering that even at these highly competitive recruitments, the groups selecting new members include a LOT of teenagers, she'll be just fine. "Greekdom" is composed of teenagers just like her, too.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

...towards a kid who is probably 17 or 18.

Kid, exactly.

Kids don't get to tell adults to calm down. LOL.

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Of course she needs to "figure herself out", she's a teenager.

Exactly.

In other threads, you all tell people to worry about college because you go to college to learn and not the be Greek. Well, I say to worry about yourself, and then college, and then Greekdom. You all are telling her about recs and stuff. LOL. She brought herself to Greekchat but Greekdom isn't what her thread's about, as far as I'm concerned.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by SouthernBelle93

I have no idea as to why you are such an angry post-er but I do not need you to refer to me as a "little girl," nor do I need your nasty words of "advice."

Originally Posted by SouthernBelle93

Please do not sugar coat your answers, I can take it..
Thank you!

[SouthernBelle93]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

clever..

but, I meant i can take someone saying yes they are racist or something along those lines.

what i do not need is some rude person sitting on their computer telling me that i should "figure my self out."

being blunt and being rude are two different things.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by SouthernBelle93

Hopefully everyone will calm down a little considering I meant no harm and was not trying to offend ANYONE.

I wasn't offended; this is just a pretty common post topic we see around here. There's one a few months ago, and it might behoove you to read that one as well. I'm Black, and I joined an NPC sorority in college; my experience was very different because I came from the South and joined a chapter in New England. (For example, my chapter got my recs and didn't know what to do with them!)

Just read a few more of the threads that KSUViolet06 linked to. If you have other questions that aren't answered, then totally feel free to ask them. The "I'm a black girl, can I fit into an NPC chapter?" is a trope to which many of us are inured and answering it over and over can make us punchy.

Good luck!

[SouthernBelle93]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I wasn't offended; this is just a pretty common post topic we see around here. There's one a few months ago, and it might behoove you to read that one as well. I'm Black, and I joined an NPC sorority in college; my experience was very different because I came from the South and joined a chapter in New England. (For example, my chapter got my recs and didn't know what to do with them!)

Just read a few more of the threads that KSUViolet06 linked to. If you have other questions that aren't answered, then totally feel free to ask them. The "I'm a black girl, can I fit into an NPC chapter?" is a trope to which many of us are inured and answering it over and over can make us punchy.

Good luck!

Okay good (: As i said before I have never been on this site before and I didnt even think to search for post similar to what i was asking. I will look now though!

Thank you (: