First glance/sight/blind date and/or internet turn offs

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

it's just HAIR.

Right. I think we know she didn't mean any harm by it. She corrected herself and apologized.

Y'all are ripping her a new one lol

[DaemonSeid]

Understood but it bears repeating because people tend to think that it is unnatural for hair to be in this "condition".

[laylo]

I find locks SO attractive that I actually try to avoid them...because I can't stand the disillusionment when the guy cuts his hair and is only about half as attractive as he was before!

Anyway, back to the thread....


BAD GRAMMAR.


And the shocking number of men who say that they don't like to read. Yuck.

[DrPhil]

LOL. Why in the hell is she explaining and apologizing to you all? She should've said "those of who this applies to, be offended." LOL. If she thinks dreads are dirty, that's her opinion and she's not the only person who feels that way.

I love dreads and that's because the men and women I know who have them are big on maintenance and overall cleanliness. Their dreads look good and smell good. Some men look better with dreads and would look average if not below average without them.

However, I also knew people who had dreds for a different purpose and believed that dred maintenance was contrary to the purpose of dreds so their dreds were very dirty. Even if their ass was clean, their dreds were not.

Which gets me to the topic of white folks with dreds. Why some white folks get dreds aside (such as those at my school who came back from Spring Break with a dark tan, some dreds or cornrows and beads, and Bob Marley shirts ()), different hair types call for different things. There are whites and others with generally thinner hair textures who get dreds and don't do the proper cleaning and maintenance from fear that they will "wash the dreds out." I saw a handsome white man with some dreds one day. I wanted to put him in my back pocket because he really looked like a white Bob Marley. But I looked closely at his dreds and said "gross, nevermind. Dirty."

With that said, I prefer a bald chocolate man and have chosen accordingly. That's my ultimate turn on. I have dated a man with dreds years ago or admired them as they pon da river at Reggae clubs. Never cornrows or other types of braids, though. Sorry, no thanks.

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by LikeASista

Sorry about that ... Apparently, I used the wrong term, but I've met alot of people with them, and I just don't find them attractive at all. One reason for that is because it seems like it's difficult for the hair follicles to really breathe in that, ... uh, ... well, ... in that condition. Maybe I'm just too old school, but I don't particularly like them. And that's just me, ... so don't take offense. (I didn't get offended by the "overweight" comment somebody made earlier ... it's their personal preference, and they don't have to make apologies for it.)

I feel you about the weaves, though. LMAO!! I don't wear weaves for the same reason, ... it seems that it would be difficult to really penetrate the scalp for a good washing (I assume, at least). Some people wear weave that is glued, others wear weave that is sewn in. Either way, I would imagine it would be difficult. But that's just me ...

Well I'll defend you.

My wife is a contradiction. She loves her locs but doesn't want me to have any. LOL

It's just you having to get pass your personal opinion to truly understand, but they are your personal opinion, and you should not feel bad that as you stated, to you it looks unkept.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

Well I'll defend you.

My wife is a contradiction. She loves her locs but doesn't want me to have any. LOL

It's just you having to get pass your personal opinion to truly understand, but they are your personal opinion, and you should not feel bad that as you stated, to you it looks unkept.

Exactly.

Now you need to tell us why your wife doesn't want you to have them. Does she think you won't keep yours as well as she keeps hers? LOL.

[victoriana]

Just to throw in my two cents: I met the most attractive black man I have ever seen today. He had dreads.

Sorry if my use of "black man" offended anyone. I just have different things I'm attracted to in white guys vs. black guys. Now I'm all worried about upsetting someone because someone just got torn a new one for saying they thought dreads were nasty.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by victoriana

Just to throw in my two cents: I met the most attractive black man I have ever seen today. He had dreads.

Sorry if my use of "black man" offended anyone. I just have different things I'm attracted to in white guys vs. black guys. Now I'm all worried about upsetting someone because someone just got torn a new one for saying they thought dreads were nasty.

Uhhhh...your "thinking out loud" about offending someone is more offensive (and annoying) than what you said.

I find nothing wrong with saying you saw the most attractive Black man because you're talking about your idea of attractiveness and you aren't saying that Black men are the least attractive men. Physical attractiveness is influenced by all sorts of factors including the physical features that tend to be assigned to races and ethnicities.

I am now interested in the different things that you're attracted to for white guys vs. Black guys. That's a fun topic that really makes sense when we look at what attraction is about.

[ADqtPiMel]

Dreads are sexy as hell.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL. Why in the hell is she explaining and apologizing to you all? She should've said "those of who this applies to, be offended." LOL. If she thinks dreads are dirty, that's her opinion and she's not the only person who feels that way.

I love dreads and that's because the men and women I know who have them are big on maintenance and overall cleanliness. Their dreads look good and smell good. Some men look better with dreads and would look average if not below average without them.

However, I also knew people who had dreds for a different purpose and believed that dred maintenance was contrary to the purpose of dreds so their dreds were very dirty. Even if their ass was clean, their dreds were not.

Which gets me to the topic of white folks with dreds. Why some white folks get dreds aside (such as those at my school who came back from Spring Break with a dark tan, some dreds or cornrows and beads, and Bob Marley shirts ()), different hair types call for different things. There are whites and others with generally thinner hair textures who get dreds and don't do the proper cleaning and maintenance from fear that they will "wash the dreds out." I saw a handsome white man with some dreds one day. I wanted to put him in my back pocket because he really looked like a white Bob Marley. But I looked closely at his dreds and said "gross, nevermind. Dirty."

With that said, I prefer a bald chocolate man and have chosen accordingly. That's my ultimate turn on. I have dated a man with dreds years ago or admired them as they pon da river at Reggae clubs. Never cornrows or other types of braids, though. Sorry, no thanks.

Ok, I have to agree with you on this about white people and dreds.. (As a white person...with a lot of hippie friends...three of which have tried very hard to pull off dreds). None of these "hippies" have had clean dreds, and the excuse is always the whole "But I'll wash them out" thing. Ok...then find a different hairstyle.

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

You can be as "not" into them as you like without saying calling them unhygienic. I'm pretty sure you just offended at least 2 very well-groomed people.

ETA: Alright, y'all, I'm assuming you bathe. Don't make a liar out of me today.

yup.

Originally Posted by LikeASista

Sorry about that ... Apparently, I used the wrong term, but I've met alot of people with them, and I just don't find them attractive at all. One reason for that is because it seems like it's difficult for the hair follicles to really breathe in that, ... uh, ... well, ... in that condition. Maybe I'm just too old school, but I don't particularly like them. And that's just me, ... so don't take offense. (I didn't get offended by the "overweight" comment somebody made earlier ... it's their personal preference, and they don't have to make apologies for it.)

I feel you about the weaves, though. LMAO!! I don't wear weaves for the same reason, ... it seems that it would be difficult to really penetrate the scalp for a good washing (I assume, at least). Some people wear weave that is glued, others wear weave that is sewn in. Either way, I would imagine it would be difficult. But that's just me ...

it's one thing to not like locs, but the comment about it being unhygienic is prolly the only part anyone cares about. it's the same as if the person who said overweight people made some statement as to how overweight people are disgusting or will steal their food or something.

Originally Posted by victoriana

Just to throw in my two cents: I met the most attractive black man I have ever seen today. He had dreads.

Sorry if my use of "black man" offended anyone.

LMAO! are you serious? what did you think you were supposed to say??

[dreamseeker]

this thread just reminded me of this guy at work i had the hugest crush on. 6'3" or 6'5", 235 lbs... sarcastic sense of humor. shooot i would've crossed that work/romance line for him.

[victoriana]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I am now interested in the different things that you're attracted to for white guys vs. Black guys. That's a fun topic that really makes sense when we look at what attraction is about.

Well for one, I really find that I am attracted to how black men smell (I know that's kind of weird but I have a really sensitive nose). I love their voices, their hair, and how their smile and eyes stand out, especially with the darker skin tones. I find that I don't mind body decorations as much on black men as opposed to others.

Also, I find pretty much all Asian men really attractive.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

The best part of washing, especially on weekends during the summer if I am going to be out and about, is to wash it early in the morning with a peppermint shampoo and let it air dry.

Just smellin' like Christmas.

Originally Posted by dreamseeker

It's the same as if the person who said overweight people made some statement as to how overweight people are disgusting or will steal their food or something.

They snatchin' your pizza up?

Well, ladies and gents the moral of the story is:



Ain't nothin' wrong with a good loc. That is all.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by dreamseeker

it's the same as if the person who said overweight people made some statement as to how overweight people are disgusting or will steal their food or something.

Not really. But, okay. LOL.

Originally Posted by dreamseeker

LMAO! are you serious? what did you think you were supposed to say??

I think she meant that she specified Black man as opposed to seeing him as a man regardless of race.

Originally Posted by victoriana

Well for one, I really find that I am attracted to how black men smell (I know that's kind of weird but I have a really sensitive nose). I love their voices, their hair, and how their smile and eyes stand out, especially with the darker skin tones. I find that I don't mind body decorations as much on black men as opposed to others.

This is kind of dumb. Yeah I gave you an outlet and crushed your dreams.

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Well, ladies and gents the moral of the story is:



Ain't nothin' wrong with a good loc. That is all.

He has bed bugs in his hair.

Kidding. Fine ass.

That doesn't mean that everyone has to like locs or not think that locs either are or seem dirty.