Dropped as a Pledge

[Coolguy]

Originally Posted by EE-BO

You have received good advice so far- it is safe to assume you were not depledged because noone wanted you as a little brother. While it is entirely possible that in the process of little brother selection a discussion was had that led to you being depledged, I have never heard of a rule that would say any pledge who does not have an active want to be his big brother is automatically out.

The more details you reveal, the more possible reasons for you being depledged come up. If you spent a week thinking deeply about every detail of the last few weeks I am sure you could come up with 100 reasons why you were let go and 100 reasons why every single one of your fellow pledge brothers should have been depledged instead of you. And for every reason you come up with, someone somewhere will find a reason to agree or disagree with your findings.

At this point it is best to let it go and move on. As I and others have said, the chapter is clearly not going to tell you the real reason. And since you will not get the honesty from them that would make thinking on this further worthwhile to you in your future life plans, it is best to just move on and think to the future. It is not an easy thing to say- and a less easy thing for you to do- but that is what I suggest.

This would be a good time to disappear for a few days and take a rest. Go home, check into a hotel, go stay with a friend- whatever you want. Get away from things for a long weekend and take time to think in whatever manner best suits you. That will help I think.

Best of luck to you.

Thank you for this post. It's been quite some time since I've seen my family and it's a good a time as ever to see them again. I appreciate the words from everyone on here. It's really opened my eyes and I'll reflect on what aspects of myself I should improve on. My realization to improve myself for personal growth rather than simply joining a fraternity can hopefully pay dividends for me in the future.

I appreciate the posts from everyone.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Coolguy

Thank you for this post. It's been quite some time since I've seen my family and it's a good a time as ever to see them again. I appreciate the words from everyone on here. It's really opened my eyes and I'll reflect on what aspects of myself I should improve on. My realization to improve myself for personal growth rather than simply joining a fraternity can hopefully pay dividends for me in the future.

I appreciate the posts from everyone.

That's a good attitude. Good luck, whether you decide to go Greek again or not. I'm sure you'll have a great college experience either way.