Cyberbullying

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Seriously, you two are as bad as Dr. Phil and I when we get going.

No. Unlike Alumiyum and knight_shadow, you think you can both initiate and end a back-and-forth; and you haven't learned that you can only control when you stop typing.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

No. Unlike Alumiyum and knight_shadow, you think you can both initiate and end a back-and-forth; and you haven't learned that you can only control when you stop typing.

I haven't? I didn't realize that controlling others was an option in the first place. If I had, I would have just gone straight for your off button.

[Lasonja]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Good for you. First, that's not an option for everyone. Second, not everyone feels violence is the answer. And third, that won't always stop harassment and sometimes retaliation can make things even worse. Bullying is serious, and is not the same thing as someone being a dick in a messageboard.

Either way, if somebody disrespects me on or off a message board they will get dealt with. How I choose to do that is on me.

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Ooh internet tough guy.

Dear lord, you sound like my clients. They'd rather go back to prison than lose 'face' and get 'punked.'

No, you just have some dumb clients.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I agree. We type and read when we want to. We don't when we don't want to.

Thank you.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Standing up for one's self isn't the same thing as "kicking their ass." It's the difference between passive/assertive/aggressive. Odds are, k_s you experienced isolated incidents of "bullying" but because of how it was handled on your part or the part of others it never became a pattern. (And you stated you had a few individual things said.) That's not really shocking, I'm not sure why others are so incredulous.

Maybe it's just semantics, but I see bullying as a pattern of getting picked on. I don't think one or two incidents = bullying. Also, my parents were military, so I've been in military settings for my entire life. Kids acted out from time to time, but fear of getting caught by your parents or someone in their unit(s) stopped them from going too far. That, along with my attitude and build, is why I think I wasn't bullied.

And yeah, ass kicking isn't always the answer, but sometimes it is an answer.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Maybe it's just semantics, but I see bullying as a pattern of getting picked on. I don't think one or two incidents = bullying. Also, my parents were military, so I've been in military settings for my entire life. Kids acted out from time to time, but fear of getting caught by your parents or someone in their unit(s) stopped them from going too far. That, along with my attitude and build, is why I think I wasn't bullied.

And yeah, ass kicking isn't always the answer, but sometimes it is an answer.

And that's a fine interpretation, I'm sure people who study bullying have technical definitions and all, but that's kind of how I think about it too.

And yeah I'd suspect the military setting, for some people at least, results in less harassment for kids. I can see other individuals not fitting in/having the support of parents/etc.

And sure, violence is 'an answer' but when someone sees it as their first and necessary option - "I'm not going to let them punk me." - versus "it was the last straw and I had to do something" or even if it was a singular situation.

I'm not even exaggerating when I say it's the same attitude as my clients have. Hell we had a discussion about pride bringing you down today in group. (And they started it, I'm so proud of them.)