Dropped as a Pledge

[Coolguy]

It actually is the entire story. I didn't do anything wrong except for losing a pledge pin (although 3 others lost theirs as well and they remain). Not only that, there was a swimming event that I had to partake in because some actives weren't able to do it. It was completely last minute and I was sick as hell too, and I still managed to pull it off with the rest of the members. The Pledge Ed said some BS about how "he loves me" and that I'm his "kid". Yeah, right, but I understand that he was just trying to be nice.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If this really is the case, the pledgemaster should have taken you as a little. That's part of his responsibility.

That's not really his responsibility.

Originally Posted by Coolguy

It actually is the entire story.

No, there's probably something else that was going on.

[Coolguy]

I spoke to the Pledge Ed and he said it was simply that I wasn't outgoing enough and that I didn't allow them to get to know me (It's just how I am. I suppose it's an area I can improve on, but it's tough for me to open up) However, one of my close Pledge buddies spoke to one of the officers in the fraternity and that it was because I made out with a girl on the dance floor during one of our exchanges and that she didn't like it. Although she gave me her number after it happened(Didn't call her considering we were both drunk as hell) I'm not sure what the true reason behind for my drop. Maybe it's both or just one of them. Anyway, this sounds like a recipe for disaster and I just wish that he would have been brutally honest from the beginning.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Coolguy

I spoke to the Pledge Ed and he said it was simply that I wasn't outgoing enough and that I didn't allow them to get to know me (It's just how I am. I suppose it's an area I can improve on, but it's tough for me to open up) However, one of my close Pledge buddies spoke to one of the officers in the fraternity and that it was because I made out with a girl on the dance floor during one of our exchanges and that she didn't like it. Although she gave me her number after it happened(Didn't call her considering we were both drunk as hell) I'm not sure what the true reason behind for my drop. Maybe it's both or just one of them. Anyway, this sounds like a recipe for disaster and I just wish that he would have been brutally honest from the beginning.

So, yeah, it was more than "no one wanted to be my big brother".

You're going to get different answers because A. not everyone knows what "really" happened or B. they aren't allowed to talk about it.

It doesn't seem like they are willing to take you back. I would find ways to move on. This is a cautionary tale of people who ONLY make/stay friends with people in their fraternity/sorority.

Join some clubs, find friends in classes or the dorm. We can't tell you what your chances are in joining another chapter (in case you were going to ask). If you are interested in pursuing another fraternity, you need to BE FRIENDS with people first. Not for the reason of possibly pledging at some point, but for the sake of simply creating relationships.

Good luck.