Honeymoon Registry

[33girl]

Originally Posted by agzg

Registries aren't hard to find if the couple registers at the standard places, particularly department stores. You can go to their website and search by last name. If people don't do that, they can ask a contact where the couple is registered. Tacky little registry cards are not needed.

They are if it's a local department store I've never heard of or that is nowhere near me. Although, sadly, that's becoming a thing of the past. One good thing about not getting married is not having to register at effing piece of crap Macy's.

And quite frankly...I don't want to go to the thing. I want to get a gift, go there, and go home with as little thought as possible. So please, bring on the tacky registry cards.

What is stag & drag and casino night?? It sounds like a mixer.

[AlphaFrog]

What in the world is a Stag-And-Drag?

[agzg]

Originally Posted by 33girl

What is stag & drag and casino night?? It sounds like a mixer.

A stag & drag is a pre-wedding party where you pay like $10 and get free food and beer, and then you stay there and gamble on different games, sometimes there's a 50/50, etc., and the procedes go towards THE WEDDING.

SRSLY. You throw a stag and drag to help pay for your WEDDING. Actually, your wedding party is supposed to throw the stag and drag. They basically take on the costs (food, drink, etc.), and the money from the night goes to the WEDDING.

Probably the tackiest thing ever. Probably worse, the bride and groom I mentioned above actually THREW THEIR OWN, sent out their own invites, etc., and invited AT LEAST 300 people, most of which were not going to be invited to the wedding at all (and in my case, I didn't even know she was engaged). Since this was a person I didn't particularly like to start, I was actually pretty pissed that I got the invite.

This is a tradition that's pretty strong in Erie.

ETA: I've been invited to a handful, and if it's a couple I like, I usually suck it up and go instead of getting them a gift (whether or not I'm invited - I fully understand that every wedding guest list has to stop somewhere). This couple in particular (the tacky tacksters), there was no way I was ever going to be invited, and if I had been, it would've definitely been a gift grab. You don't invite people who you've had a falling out with to your wedding in an attempt to make amends unless it's family.

[AlphaFrog]

Holy crap, why not sell magazines and have a bake sale, too?

I could Google for an appropriate pic, but I'm pretty sure even the intarwebz has a limit on tackiness that surpasses what would be necessary to portray this idea.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Unless everyone attending the wedding is from the same town and knows the bride's family and bridesmaids personally, I think that enclosing a gift registry card is only considerate. I mean, my cousin is engaged to a girl from New England. I have no clue if they registered down here, up there, or in between.

Originally Posted by 33girl

And quite frankly...I don't want to go to the thing. I want to get a gift, go there, and go home with as little thought as possible.

That's when you call (or email) your aunt or uncle, ask where cousin and fiancée are registered, call (or go online to) that store, purchase the gift and have the store deliver it.

As for stag and drag, words fail me.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

That's when you call (or email) your aunt or uncle, ask where cousin and fiancée are registered, call (or go online to) that store, purchase the gift and have the store deliver it.

Unfortunately, not how it's done out in hick-land.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by agzg

A stag & drag is a pre-wedding party where you pay like $10 and get free food and beer, and then you stay there and gamble on different games, sometimes there's a 50/50, etc., and the procedes go towards THE WEDDING.

SRSLY. You throw a stag and drag to help pay for your WEDDING. Actually, your wedding party is supposed to throw the stag and drag. They basically take on the costs (food, drink, etc.), and the money from the night goes to the WEDDING.

Probably the tackiest thing ever. Probably worse, the bride and groom I mentioned above actually THREW THEIR OWN, sent out their own invites, etc., and invited AT LEAST 300 people, most of which were not going to be invited to the wedding at all (and in my case, I didn't even know she was engaged). Since this was a person I didn't particularly like to start, I was actually pretty pissed that I got the invite.

This is a tradition that's pretty strong in Erie.

ETA: I've been invited to a handful, and if it's a couple I like, I usually suck it up and go instead of getting them a gift (whether or not I'm invited - I fully understand that every wedding guest list has to stop somewhere). This couple in particular (the tacky tacksters), there was no way I was ever going to be invited, and if I had been, it would've definitely been a gift grab. You don't invite people who you've had a falling out with to your wedding in an attempt to make amends unless it's family.

I do not understand that. Either have a small wedding that you can afford, or wait until you've made enough to throw yourself a bigger one...but I'll be damned if I go around asking my friends for money to get prettier centerpieces.