Getting Sororities to Give You The Time of Day

[StellarSister]

What kind of mixers have you been suggesting to sororities? Have you been suggesting things or just asking for a mixer? I'd recommend thinking outside of the box with the kinds of things you are asking the sororities to do with you.

We had a fraternity on our campus who had gotten to the point of rarely mixing with the sororities, and they decided to host a series of etiquette dinenrs for each sorority. Instead of asking us to do something at a club or something where girls would be uncomfortable dancing, wearing funny costumes, or whatever with guys they barely knew, this was something a little easier to get behind. They wore suits and asked us to wear dresses and cooked us a nice meal while teaching some do's and don'ts for proper table etiquette. They also did it early enough that it didn't get in the way of any other plans that girls may have. I think another great thing they did was host the same event for all sororities. If they were going to plan one for everyone else, we didn't want to be the one chapter missing out.

It was a great idea that really raised their social profile on campus, and we started holding events with them much more frequently after that.

Hope that helps!

[trojanpride]

I think you should definitely be honest with who your organization is when "pitching" yourself for events. If your numbers are low and you're not the "faciest" guys, don't get cocky (not saying you are).

Be nice, be gentlemen, be respectful, and do try to increase your visibility on campus. Girls like having events with us because of our reputation as "really sweet guys." You don't have the numbers yet, perhaps you don't have the visibility or can play the hot card, but you all have personalities. Use them well. You're new, if a sorority agrees to an event don't expect the hugest turnout, but since your numbers are low this won't be too awkward.

It's a reputation thing. It sucks but that's how it goes, keep doing small but successful events and you should do well. Good luck.