Need honest advice

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Originally Posted by livelaughluv

So last semester (spring 2010) I went through recruitment, joined a sorority, and initiated (I posted my story on here ). At the time I was so excited about everything and everyone, and the whole new experience, but as time has gone by, I've started to feel like I'm on the fringe. Almost all of the other girls, both within and outside of my initation class, have a huge group of sisters with whom they eat lunches together, have movie marathons, go out together on weekends, have inside jokes, visit each other over the summer, etc., but somehow I'm not a part of that, and that's not to say I haven't tried to be. I've tried to initiate several dinners and hanging out with the girls, I go to almost every event for the chapter, both mandatory and not mandatory, I've run for (and lost) several positions within the sorority, and I'm really trying to reach out and connect to my sisters, none of whom I knew before joining. I don't want to say that I feel "unwanted" because that sounds harsh, but I just feel as though everybody else is so bonded and that I'm missing out. Even my big and I aren't that close. I didn't even know her before she became my big, and she's a senior this year (I'm a sophomore). She and I get along super-well, but she's a greek ambassador this year (think along the lines of a rho gamma) so she can't really be affiliated, and she's also captain of the dance team so she's very busy and I haven't hung out with her once this year. So basically, I feel like I'm disconnected from my sisters. I don't really want my life as a sorority member to be limited to only those experiences and interactions I get during greek sanctioned events--I want real sisterhood.

I guess what I'm asking is how to go about changing this situation, because I really do love my chapter and my sisters, I just want them to love me back

There are SO MANY threads like this, even right now. Get involved in different ways. Get on committees for things you are good at or passionate about - recruitment, choreographer or song leader, scholarship, Panhel, etc. so they can learn more about you. Then be open to new opportunities. Ask people questions and get to know them - friendship is a two-way street.