to drop or not to drop :/

[kappa_dancer]

This is definitely not an easy decision to make, and it's obvious that it's really weighing heavily on you. I went through something similar during my new member period. I didn't feel as close to the chapter as I initially expected I would, and that bothered me. However, I did have 3 girls I got very close to and we spent lots of time together. To me, even one relationship in my chapter would have meant the world. And that special connection I wanted to feel -- I got that at initiation. It really took me up until that point to finally feel the sisterhood and the love.

Remember that your sorority experience isn't just your undergrad years. Your alumnae experience could turn out to be exactly what you had been hoping for from day 1.

If you really want to be in a sorority, and it sounds like you do, take some time and really think about this decision. ellebud's advice about talking to your big is a great option. Good luck!

[limegreen]

Originally Posted by kappa_dancer

Remember that your sorority experience isn't just your undergrad years. Your alumnae experience could turn out to be exactly what you had been hoping for from day 1.

This. I didn't really feel like I bonded much as an active. I was always on the fringe. But now 15+ years as an alumni, I am so happy with my choice.

[ellebud]

Originally Posted by limegreen

This. I didn't really feel like I bonded much as an active. I was always on the fringe. But now 15+ years as an alumni, I am so happy with my choice.

Completely understand and agree. My sorority had it seemed to me at the time, only very wealthy girls. One girl received a staggering (for the time, 1970) $500 a month clothing allowence. I felt beleagured at times, inadequate at others. I transfered schools, affiliated, and was a bit adrift (but made some friends, though not super close.) for the rest of my college life in part because I didn't have a pledge class to relate to one on one.

Fast foward: Life went on and some of my best friends are my sorority sisters from both campuses. I have stood by them and they by me during good and bad times. Several of us live in the same neighborhood, others 20 minutes away. We do have a common bond. I am walking over to one sister's home this afternoon.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by ellebud

Completely understand and agree. My sorority had it seemed to me at the time, only very wealthy girls. One girl received a staggering (for the time, 1970) $500 a month clothing allowence. I felt beleagured at times, inadequate at others. I transfered schools, affiliated, and was a bit adrift (but made some friends, though not super close.) for the rest of my college life in part because I didn't have a pledge class to relate to one on one.

Fast foward: Life went on and some of my best friends are my sorority sisters from both campuses. I have stood by them and they by me during good and bad times. Several of us live in the same neighborhood, others 20 minutes away. We do have a common bond. I am walking over to one sister's home this afternoon.

$500 just for clothing every month is staggering to me in 2010. I wish.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

$500 just for clothing every month is staggering to me in 2010. I wish.

Me too! That would be a real treat if I had that kind of allowance!

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

$500 just for clothing every month is staggering to me in 2010. I wish.

Exactly. If it is no longer staggering for ellebud, I respectfully request a clothing donation from her.