Life Changes

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Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

Damn, Honeychile I wish I would have read this post sooner! I actually really could use some house things and my brother and SIL live in the south hills of Pittsburgh. Dangit.

Actually, the reason I need said housewares is because of a big life change. After two long, tiring, anxiety filled years of looking, I've been offered a professional position in my field in a wonderful institution. The problem? It is in Oklahoma. OK, so that's not such a big problem, but my husband's job in Pittsburgh is too good to leave, and he loves it. This opportunity is too good for me to pass up, especially as an emerging professional. So we are doing a long-distance marriage. He'll work from OK one week a month, but that's it. And it kills me. Having to have that conversation with him was the most heartbreaking thing I've ever done. I've never heard him cry like that. I've never felt worse in my life. It honestly was the worst thing I've ever had to do. And now when we talk about what I'm taking to OK, it's like we're getting divorced. But the thing is, we're awesome together. We're perfect for each other. I love him even more now than I ever did before. I just don't know how this whole thing is going to go down. Ugh.

Yeah, I'll address the big elephant in the room.

I hope for the sake of your marriage, that you guys figure out another solution. Even military families have a "come home" date to look forward to by knowing there is eventually an end date. I was in a LD relationship for 3 years while we dated. There's no way I would subject my marriage to something like this. No company, mine or his, would be worth the heartache that would come as a result of this kind of situation. I'm sorry for you, but I'm more sorry that one of you isn't willing to sacrifice for the other. Haven't you ever seen the Die Hard Movies? Hah!

And yes, I've been in your shoes, though not quite as drastic. My husband left his job to follow me 150 miles away so that I could pursue my dream. He ended up unemployed for over a year as a result of following me, but we wouldn't have had it any other way. We needed to be together to keep our marriage in tact.