My daughter's recruitment

[Amicus]

A friend of mine has two daughters, neither of whom belong to sororities. The elder daughter wasn't interested and the young goes to a school that does not have a Greek system.

My friend will admit that she is mildly diasppointed. She is active with her alumnae organization and has advised her daughters' friends who have participated in rush/recruitment at their schools.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Amicus

A friend of mine has two daughters, neither of whom belong to sororities. The elder daughter wasn't interested and the young goes to a school that does not have a Greek system.

My friend will admit that she is mildly diasppointed. She is active with her alumnae organization and has advised her daughters' friends who have participated in rush/recruitment at their schools.

And the interest you have in your friends' college aged daughters as well as college aged sorority women everywhere continues to creep people out to no end.

[carnation]

Six of my daughters have rushed in the last 10 years, ZTA Doe. None rushed at campuses that had Pi Phi; I have 2 AOIIs, 2 Chi Os, a Phi Mu, and a Zeta. I've got to admit that for years, it was weird seeing other groups' things around the house; last week I cleaned up the play room and found an AOII bulletin board, a Chi O notebook, a Zeta pledge manual, and a giant Phi Mu cup. For years, I felt like a perp when I would wear, say, my "Chi O Mom" polo or "Zeta Parent" T-shirt. Receiving official mail complete with crest from the national offices or local chapters was also startling at first. We were very proud of our girls, though, and their sisters are super!

I threw myself into whatever I was asked to do to help, although 5 of their chapters were far away. And yes, just because someone will say something if I don't, I hope that at least 1 of my high school daughters or maybe my granddaughters will go Pi Phi!

Anyway, I know lots of moms who've experienced this because lately, few SEC women have gotten their legacy chapter so there are many moms these days who wonder, "Wow, my daughter is in a different group, how can I help?"

[AznSAE]

last week we were searching for greek related movies on netflix. i came across "the sorority wars" and watched it with my sister. it was a made-for-tv movie (abc family i think) that came out in 2009 dealing with this exact situation. it was okay, but more for the younger crowd. if i didn't read much about sorority recruitment on greekchat, i probably wouldn't have gotten this movie lol. it deals with recruitment, dirty rushing, pref, parties, rivals, etc. below is a copy-and-paste summary:

When freshman Katie (Lucy Hale) pledges a sorority, her mother, Lutie (Courtney Thorne-Smith) expects her to choose prestigious Delta house. After all, Lutie wasn't only a member of Delta, she co-founded it. But when Katie decides on the less straitlaced Kappas, Lutie loses her cool. Now, it's an all-out family feud - mother vs. daughter, sister vs. sister - in this campus drama co-starring Faith Ford as Lutie's best friend and fellow Delta founder.

[DaffyKD]

My daughter went to school where there is a KD chapter. As a little girl she always told me she wanted to be a KD. She refused to go through recruitment when she started school, but I had told her, if she decided to go through recruitment, she was to choose a house that is right for her. KD was the right house for me on the campus where I was going, with the ladies who were collegians at that time. If I went through recruitment today, who knows if KD would be the right house on that campus with those members now.

I am very active in my alumnae chapter (was president for 3 years) and was on our national volunteer board for 2 years. I was disappointed that I can't share KD with her, but recognized that she is a VERY independent woman. I did tell her, "I don't care if you go through recruitment or not, but my only rule is that you cannot just sit in your dorm and do nothing." She found groups that made her happy to belong and do what she wanted.

In our Alumnae Chapter, there are quite a few women who have daughters who have not joined KD and they are happy that their girls found someplace that made them happy.

DaffyKD

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AznSAE

last week we were searching for greek related movies on netflix. i came across "the sorority wars" and watched it with my sister. it was a made-for-tv movie (abc family i think) that came out in 2009 dealing with this exact situation. it was okay, but more for the younger crowd. if i didn't read much about sorority recruitment on greekchat, i probably wouldn't have gotten this movie lol. it deals with recruitment, dirty rushing, pref, parties, rivals, etc. below is a copy-and-paste summary:

When freshman Katie (Lucy Hale) pledges a sorority, her mother, Lutie (Courtney Thorne-Smith) expects her to choose prestigious Delta house. After all, Lutie wasn't only a member of Delta, she co-founded it. But when Katie decides on the less straitlaced Kappas, Lutie loses her cool. Now, it's an all-out family feud - mother vs. daughter, sister vs. sister - in this campus drama co-starring Faith Ford as Lutie's best friend and fellow Delta founder.

You're confusing. Sometimes your posts are regular posts, and other times they're oddly spam-like.

[BAckbOwlsgIrl]

Okay, I will bite on this one.

My mom and I are in different sororities.
Through the whole process of what we called Rush back in the day, my mom was supportive. Although, I was cut from her chapter, she was my biggest cheerleader. It was always what was best for me. I think that my mom was the first of the heli-mom's; coming straight from the hotel to pick me up after Rush and making sure that I got enough rest and food while battling the last of bit pneumonia.

Now back to what I meant to post for:
A couple of years after I graduated, my parents were going to spend over a year on a project in a remote southwestern town. Sure enough, one day, I open up my local alumni newsletter and there is a story about a woman whose son in doing work in that same town. I showed it to my mom and told her to call the woman that was mentioned. Sure enough, my mom calls up and says "My daughter is in (my sorority)." That got the conversation started. They chatted for several minutes. Mom learned a lot. Had I been in another sorority, or Mom's for that matter, that introduction would not have taken place nor the information exchanged.

The moral of the story is that is an opportunity for both of you. I like to think that life is full of opportunities and this is just one of many for you and her.

To this day, she is good with it. I see her badge occasionally in her closet. Never once has she mentioned that she wished she could have been at initiation for me. In some ways, I think that as much as it would have been nice to be in the organization, I think that we are better because we are not. We have more people to network with and meet through each other!