I understand what you mean. My dad was 48 when I was born (mom was 37) and having a parent that was older was different in many respects than my other friends. I swore I would never have kids if I were over 30 but I am 30 and still not sure if I want them but maybe. It will be a very difficult decision for me b/c I don't want my children to resent me for being an older parent (though it may be the norm by then). My father is in assissted living, my mother is starting to show her age (having multiple problems) and I am only 30 and having to deal with alot of pressure that most people don't deal with until they are in their 50's or 60's and usually more stable in their life. I guess that sounds selfish and maybe it is but I am wondering how I am going to pay for my father if he is forced to go into a nursing home (they are pretty damn expensive and he was denied long term care b/c of his medical problems). ok got off topic but something just to consider.
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Originally posted by lifesaver
No, i understand, and I have made peace with it. I just bring it up because todays "career families" choose to put off having kids for whatever reason, and always seem to gloss over the age factor and the effect it will have on the kids. it does have an effect. I know. there are others on this board who were in the same position and know too. I just wish people would pay it due consideration, thats all. Of course I know there are no gurantees in this life, and none of us know how long we have here...
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