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Originally Posted by MJR518
Hi, so I joined my NPC sorority last year with our most recent new member class. During my new member period we had what would be called a dry pledge period. We were not allowed to drink even if we were 21 and would not get initiated if we did.
This fall before recruitment the subject of the no drinking rule came up at a meeting and our pledge mom explained to all of us that technically we're not supposed to do it and that we could get in trouble for it. I had no idea about this so it was all news to me, I was a bit shocked. So the chapter voted on it and we decided to keep the dry period.
I was one of the girls who voted against it. I love my sorority and everything about it so far and I'm worried we would get shut down so I didn't think we should take the risk.
This past week my pledge mom sat down with me to talk to me about it and explained that it's not a big deal and it's tradition in this chapter and if I didn't let it go a lot of sisters would be really mad at me, making things difficult for me.
I don't know what to do. Do I speak up? Who do I talk to? I'm not even sure what sisters I can't talk to about it, I don't know who to trust. Is this really a big deal? Like would we for sure get shut down?
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Technically, having specific rules for new members falls into the current translation of "hazing", but without all of the information, it's hard to give you specific advice.
Is this rule against only drinking in the house or at sorority events? (Is this a campus or bylaws issue?)
What are you "technically not supposed to do" and could "get in trouble for" - drink, or forbid pledges (sorry, new members) to drink?
Are you 21? If your class is mostly freshman, I bet most of you aren't old enough to drink legally (I'm wondering if that's where the "tradition" began). If you aren't 21, is this something important enough to "do something" about (for the short new member period)?
The solution would be that if you are 21 and don't live with members, and are in either dorms that allow of-age students to drink, or live off campus, just don't drink in front of others for the time period. I'll repeat the question - If you ARE at least 21, is this something important enough to "do something" about (for the short new member period)?
I think that there is more to this story that we aren't reading.
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