I need advice and help. Have no idea where to put this.

[angels&angles]

I realize that when you go to a club or a frat party and see what looks like everyone grinding on random dudes, it can be intimidating and frustrating. Try to find some other attached and/or more reserved girls and all of you guys dance in a group. If guys come up and try to dance with you, just tell them (politely) that you're not interested. Agree that you'll all run interference for each other with the pushy ones.

I've found that the girls NOT looking for a guy to hook up with can actually have a lot more fun because there's not always that pressure to look sexy and desirable. I am the world's goofiest dancer, but I don't care if I'm just hanging out with my friends, and not worrying about whether someone wants to get with me.

Alternatively, offer to be the sober sister/sober driver for any frat party or club outings. This will get you lots of gratitude, some good stories, and sometimes some hilarious drunken bonding. You will also meet some different girls in the sorority if you have to DD for them. And you have a really good reason not to get wasted/start boogie-ing.

[lala2005]

Originally Posted by angels&angles

I realize that when you go to a club or a frat party and see what looks like everyone grinding on random dudes, it can be intimidating and frustrating. Try to find some other attached and/or more reserved girls and all of you guys dance in a group. If guys come up and try to dance with you, just tell them (politely) that you're not interested. Agree that you'll all run interference for each other with the pushy ones.

I've found that the girls NOT looking for a guy to hook up with can actually have a lot more fun because there's not always that pressure to look sexy and desirable. I am the world's goofiest dancer, but I don't care if I'm just hanging out with my friends, and not worrying about whether someone wants to get with me.

Alternatively, offer to be the sober sister/sober driver for any frat party or club outings. This will get you lots of gratitude, some good stories, and sometimes some hilarious drunken bonding. You will also meet some different girls in the sorority if you have to DD for them. And you have a really good reason not to get wasted/start boogie-ing.

Wow that helps a lot. thank you so so so much!!! And yeah I will from now on. I'm taking my driving test today so I'll be able to do that.
That was another factor that made me couldn't go to a lot of events. Not having a license! Luckily I'm getting it today so I'll be able to go to most! Haha