Small Campus - Phi Mu Needs help

[PhiMu1996]

I have "strongly suggested" the girls get out and go to events, they don't have to drink but at least go and be out and about. We also did mini makeovers and helped them showcase their best physical features and helped them build more self confidence. We are also sending treats to all the greek houses and cards on the Founder's Days. It's a work in progress but there is a part of me that wonders if nothing is going to work.

We do use the RFM on our campus and though the new system is suppose to help the weakest chapters and "help achieve parity" it isn't working. The other 3 houses are pretty equal and then there is us in distant 4th.

Don't get me wrong, the girls in our house are amazing - they have worked their butts off and all us alums are supe proud of them. I think that is why I am doing my best to help them. They truly represent the spirit of Phi Mu. I just wish others could see that there is more to being in a sorority besides superficial things. That's just too hard to explain and market to the PNMs.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by PhiMu1996

I just wish others could see that there is more to being in a sorority besides superficial things. That's just too hard to explain and market to the PNMs.

Get rid of the word "market." You are a member of a special sisterhood. You are not a bottle of cola.

Go out - every single member - and make friends. In class, in extracurriculars, at work, wherever. Then introduce them to your other friends, who happen to be your sisters. If they seem to enjoy themselves, ask them to join your sorority.

No, you cannot do this in 5 minutes. No, it's not like formal rush where you start the week with nothing and end up with 20 new members. But you'll most likely have a lot more women staying around rather than leaving the university or the sorority. That will be because they got to know the women on a more personal level rather than a total 2 hours of rush conversation, and they'll have decided that whatever flaws your sorority may have (the quiet girl rep, the smaller size) are worth putting up with because they truly feel as if they've found a home. You will get girls who want to be in YOUR sorority, not A sorority.