Getting Sororities to Give You The Time of Day

[When Doves Cry]

We used to have the same problem (fraternities would either cancel our socials or just wouldn't schedule any with us)

And this may sound really shallow, but one year, we elected our two hottest girls to be Social Chairs. We started having socials lined up every single week. And because of this, we got to know each fraternity better & made friends with guys in all of them, so that made it easier to schedule socials with them later.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by When Doves Cry

We used to have the same problem (fraternities would either cancel our socials or just wouldn't schedule any with us)

And this may sound really shallow, but one year, we elected our two hottest girls to be Social Chairs. We started having socials lined up every single week. And because of this, we got to know each fraternity better & made friends with guys in all of them, so that made it easier to schedule socials with them later.

^^One of the fraternities dressed up their hottest guy in a suit and scheduled for him to speak at our chapter meeting where he asked us to be their homecoming partners & have a fall social. Shallow? Yes. Effective? Um...YEAH. We're talking 18-22 year old women. Plus, taking the time to think ahead and SCHEDULE to speak at our meeting, as well as us already being together to go ahead and vote when he was done speaking (after he left, obviously...we weren't going to vote IN FRONT of him) were good ideas.

[excelblue]

Great ideas, everybody! I especially like that chapter meeting idea.

My fraternity is relatively new on campus (2 years old, clean slate in terms of reptuation), and our current status is that while we're officially recognized, most of the Greeks know nothing about us beyond the fact that we exist.

However, without going into too much detail, everybody in my fraternity are in majors which are seriously underrepresented by females (~15%) and more seriously underrepresented by Greek Life (~2%), whereas the general status on campus is ~51% female and ~15% Greek. So, it's been very difficult knowing girls in class, etc. Of the few girls in other sororities we know, it's all been thru some very random encounters. Good news, however, is that albeit few, they're all very high-influence (exec board positions, social chairs).

Right now, we're trying to increase our publicity by participating in all the all-Greek events that exist, making an effort to attend every philantropy event, and boosting membership. These are areas that have been severely lacking in the past because we were focused on internal issues (eg. ensuring that the brotherhood is sustainable before anything else).

[33girl]

Sit in the caf, near the sororities, so they can see you. Be sure you look hot.

When you DO have mixers, make sure you publicly thank the sorority you mixed with, thru the school paper or Facebook or whatever. Not only is this the polite thing to do it lets other sororities see that you're mixing.

Participate in intramurals if your school has them.

If the guys have time, get some of them to step outside their comfort zone and join extracurricular activities that aren't specifically to do with their major.

[pibetaphi2013]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Sit in the caf, near the sororities, so they can see you. Be sure you look hot.

When you DO have mixers, make sure you publicly thank the sorority you mixed with, thru the school paper or Facebook or whatever. Not only is this the polite thing to do it lets other sororities see that you're mixing.

Participate in intramurals if your school has them.

If the guys have time, get some of them to step outside their comfort zone and join extracurricular activities that aren't specifically to do with their major.

I would only do this if it is fairly common/would likely be accepted in the culture on your campus. It could come across as extra creepy/awkward if no fraternity or sorority has ever done something like that before, especially if it's a newspaper ad.
That said, if it seems like it would fit in when you're in school, it might be a great idea!


Also, I get the vibe that you're in a pre-professional fraternity, engineering or something. That could be your problem also. Sororities may be surprised to get a mixer invite from an org that isn't primarily social. That said, if your brothers work on befriending girls before you invite them to mix, you should be okay.

[excelblue]

My fraternity's in a very weird spot in terms of stance. We say we're social (we're in the IFC), but the major restrictions and some of the side activities really make things interesting. For example, we're also part of our campus EJC (engineers joint council), and several actual pre-professional fraternities actually explicity (and IMO, rightfully) exclude my fraternity under their dual-membership rules. Hmm, I guess I've given enough info that you guys can figure out which fraternity I'm in already...

Maybe we just need to emphasize the social aspect of our group a lot more, since up until now, it's mostly been an internal thing.

In terms of size, on my campus, the PHC sororities have an average membership of 120 whereas the average IFC fraternity is at ~40.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by pibetaphi2013

I would only do this if it is fairly common/would likely be accepted in the culture on your campus. It could come across as extra creepy/awkward if no fraternity or sorority has ever done something like that before, especially if it's a newspaper ad.

LOL, I didn't mean a giant ad, I meant a little classified ad.

Although it makes me kind of sad to think that thanking someone for their time and hospitality would ever be regarded as creepy...

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

LOL, I didn't mean a giant ad, I meant a little classified ad.

Although it makes me kind of sad to think that thanking someone for their time and hospitality would ever be regarded as creepy...

A lot of times after a particularly nice event some of the girls will put up on their facebook status "KKG <3 XYZ!" The other way around (XYZ <3 KKG!) works too. Random, little, but helpful if you're trying to improve your rep with the girls. Everyone likes to be appreciated!

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

^^One of the fraternities dressed up their hottest guy in a suit and scheduled for him to speak at our chapter meeting where he asked us to be their homecoming partners & have a fall social. Shallow? Yes. Effective? Um...YEAH. We're talking 18-22 year old women. Plus, taking the time to think ahead and SCHEDULE to speak at our meeting, as well as us already being together to go ahead and vote when he was done speaking (after he left, obviously...we weren't going to vote IN FRONT of him) were good ideas.

This. Also, serenades where the guys dress up and give the girls flowers and formally invite the sorority to an event.

Another option: offer to pay for the entire social event. Things have changed a lot since my days in the chapter, but we offered this option to fraternities we didn't typically have socials with. We weren't going to pay 1/2 because 9 times out of 10 our girls wouldn't show up. This way the guys had the social on the calendar and a handful would come out, sometimes more. I know... but you're dealing with a bunch of shallow 18-22 year olds.