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Originally Posted by Drolefille
Ok let me try and break this down. From the PNM's side: PNMs can make stupid decisions, they can also make decisions based on a feeling that they might not adequately be able to explain to the parents. We don't know how this PNM decided anything.
From the parent's side: Parents only know what their PNM tells them. Parents should be careful at making blanket statements about why their PNM was cut, invited back, or anything about how the chapter actually is rather than how their PNM perceived the chapter.
Member's side: We don't like when people make quick judgements about chapters but we do forget the above perspectives sometimes. And we forget that a PNM does not have to be ~thrilled~ to be invited back to a chapter she truly doesn't feel she clicks with. However, that cuts both ways and PNMs who have made those decisions should expect lower returns and a smaller chance of getting a bid.
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Well said.
And for the record
as a PNM I cut one of the "top" sororities on campus because it was mostly full of pageant girls and girls that were fairly conservative and religious. I'm not into the pageant scene at all, wanted, as a freshman, to do a little partying, and I'm not religious. Does this mean, looking back, that I couldn't have found girls in the chapter that were like me? No. But as a freshman, with a week and a half to meet this girls, total, this was my impression. (That being said, the most any chapter has had on campus since I've been around is 60, so they do tend to have a more established group personality than huge chapters). So I can understand on campuses with smaller chapters not wanting a bid because you didn't feel you fit in. What I don't get is feeling that way about 100+ women. There HAS to be a handful that are like you.
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