Texas A&M Recruitment...as a junior?

[Katmandu]

First, congratulations to your daughter on recruitment! I hope she is very happy with her new sisters!

Yes, you are misunderstanding the process, and it stems from the use of the word "Cut". The PNMs aren't really cutting chapters, they are ranking them. It's too bad it's not explained better, but I often read here about girls who think they "cut" a chapter because they ranked them last, and are then offended when the chapter issues an invitation to the next round.

What happened was that your daughter was not invited back by one of her higher ranked chapters. Panhellenic (via their computer program) filled her party schedule with one of her lower ranked groups. They do this because it benefits the pnms and the chapters to have full dance cards, and many minds are changed (on both sides) when there are return visits and second or third looks.

It's too bad your daughter was tramatized by having to re-visit a chapter that put her in tears, but those were the two chapters that wanted her to attend their pref parties.

[Texasmom15]

Kat,

Thanks for the explaination, that helps. Ranking is a much better way to view the process and would likely lead to less PNM confusion.

My daughter wasn't traumatized by returning to the pref party - she was traumatized (maybe not a good word for tears after an exhausting but exciting week) by having to suicide. She had heard about suiciding and just never thought she would be in that position. She was very excited to visit and re-visit all the houses. Unfortunately the one she cut three times was just not a good fit....really nice girls, but not interested in the same things she was. My daughter kept saying how nice they were and how welcome they made her feel, but the activities they enjoyed were not the activities my daughter was hoping for.

I would venture to say she would have had a perfect recruitment experience if she could have put all of her pref parties in rank order - instead she felt she really didn't fit one chapter and therefore had no choice but to suicide.

[Texasmom15]

Maybe she didn't have to suicide.....

She was invited to 3 pref parties and thought that she had to do an "all or suicide" on her card. Since there was one house she didn't fit, she thought the rules were that she could then only suicide. She would have happily accepted a bid at either of the other 2 houses.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by Texasmom15

Maybe she didn't have to suicide.....

She was invited to 3 pref parties and thought that she had to do an "all or suicide" on her card. Since there was one house she didn't fit, she thought the rules were that she could then only suicide. She would have happily accepted a bid at either of the other 2 houses.

I am 99% certain she could have listed both houses.

Also, if she had suicided and not received a bid, although she wouldn't have been eligible for snap bids, she would have been able to COB with any Panhellenic Sorority. I think you said she would have been ineligible for COB. That would have only happened if she hadn't suicided and had then declined a bid.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Texasmom15

Maybe she didn't have to suicide.....

She was invited to 3 pref parties and thought that she had to do an "all or suicide" on her card. Since there was one house she didn't fit, she thought the rules were that she could then only suicide. She would have happily accepted a bid at either of the other 2 houses.

She absolutely could have listed 2 of the 3. That's what I did. Happens all the time. Case #109374856 of uninformed bad RG advice.

[LadyLonghorn]

Originally Posted by Texasmom15

Kat,

Thanks for the explaination, that helps. Ranking is a much better way to view the process and would likely lead to less PNM confusion.

My daughter wasn't traumatized by returning to the pref party - she was traumatized (maybe not a good word for tears after an exhausting but exciting week) by having to suicide. She had heard about suiciding and just never thought she would be in that position. She was very excited to visit and re-visit all the houses. Unfortunately the one she cut three times was just not a good fit....really nice girls, but not interested in the same things she was. My daughter kept saying how nice they were and how welcome they made her feel, but the activities they enjoyed were not the activities my daughter was hoping for.

I would venture to say she would have had a perfect recruitment experience if she could have put all of her pref parties in rank order - instead she felt she really didn't fit one chapter and therefore had no choice but to suicide.

Last time I checked, none of the chapters at TAMU were into torturing puppies or eating raw sheep eyeballs. It's hard for me to imagine an entire group of girls being into the exact same things and all of those are things your daughter finds repugnant.

And she did not "cut" chapters. She ranked them. That's why your first choice may not be on your next invite list even though you didn't "cut" them.