Changing your mind after refusing a bid

[33girl]

Um what. This is Green Book stuff, not "some Greek systems or GLOs."

If she went through formal rush, signed a bid card and received a bid, then yes, she is bound to that sorority for one year whether she begins pledging or not.

However, if she was offered a bid through COB or from a group that she did NOT put on her bid card, the bid expires after 48 hours at the most.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If she went through formal rush, signed a bid card and received a bid, then yes, she is bound to that sorority for one year whether she begins pledging or not.

She can re-approach the chapter that offered her the bid. If the chapter met quota and is at/over total, she is SOL. If not, the chapter may say anything from "sure, welcome aboard!" to "you will have to re-rush, but we're having a COB event in two weeks / a month / next semester, why don't you come by then" to "you turned us down and now you want in? Get lost, kid".

She is bound to that chapter for one year, so she cannot join any other chapter until next year's FR.

However, if she was offered a bid through COB or from a group that she did NOT put on her bid card, the bid expires after 48 hours at the most.

Not necessarily. My chapter has held COB bids open for longer than that. Sometimes a biddee wants to think about it, talk it over with her parents, figure out how she's going to meet the time and financial obligations...

But bids don't stay open forever.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

Not necessarily. My chapter has held COB bids open for longer than that. Sometimes a biddee wants to think about it, talk it over with her parents, figure out how she's going to meet the time and financial obligations...

But bids don't stay open forever.

I don't want to wag my finger but they really should standardize that. If it means issuing another bid (in the technical sense) then do that. But you don't want it to get around that Susie's bid expired after 2 days and Sherry was allowed to take a week to think about it. That just sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.

We often did what Zeta13Girl mentioned - the women signed the bid and then waited till next semester to pledge.

And I thought refusing a bid and depledging would be two different things.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I don't want to wag my finger but they really should standardize that. If it means issuing another bid (in the technical sense) then do that. But you don't want it to get around that Susie's bid expired after 2 days and Sherry was allowed to take a week to think about it. That just sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.

That's because situations like that shouldn't happen. If Sherry gets a week, Susie gets a week. You don't offer a bid to someone you don't want as a sister, and if Susie asks for an extra couple of days to decide because she wants to talk to her parents and they're on vacation, or wants to hear back about a part-time job, or wants to get a major exam behind her before she decides - she should get the time she needs, just like Sherry did. Especially if she was caught off guard by the bid, which can happen with COB. Although we did sometimes "encourage" biddees to make a decision sooner rather than later, so that they could catch up and be initiated with the current NM class rather than have to wait.

[OleMissGlitter]

While Chapter Adviser at Ole Miss we had a young lady who didn't come back after Bid Day. She waited one semester before approaching the chapter about pledging again. She was hesitant at first since AOII was not her first choice. However, she ended up meeting more AOIIs and women in her new member class that she changed her mind. It ended a very happy ending.