Words or phrases that annoy you

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I sometimes refer to my...well, boyfriend as my boyfriend in casual conversation, but I would definitely feel much younger than I am were I to introduce him as "my boyfriend". I introduce him as "Steve". They can figure it out.

And I mostly use "boyfriend" because he told me to stop saying "that guy I date". He said people would think I forgot his name.

It just depends on what you're comfortable with. I don't even use that term in casual conversation, I just refer to her as my "friend such and such" if I'm talking about her to other people. Whether they can figure it out or not, or if they know who she is or not, really isn't my concern.

Originally Posted by Animate

Thank you! This is one of my biggest gripes about relationships. Some people feel they HAVE to have titles. Titles, to me, are for people outside of the relationship and I'm not letting those people determine what my relation ship with whatever young lady is.

I agree. For me, I believe that it's important to start off as friends in non-romantic ways. If or when it's taken to a level of courtship, technically you are still friends. Best friends. That friendship has to always be there, otherwise it's not going to work out. But, yeah, I'm with you. "Boyfriend" and "girlfriend" titles are for grade school and highschool. It's silly watching grown men and women using them (To me it is).

[pshsx1]

"smh" used to annoy me.

I have no idea what happened.

I don't seem to use it outside of GC, though. lol

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

It just depends on what you're comfortable with. I don't even use that term in casual conversation, I just refer to her as my "friend such and such" if I'm talking about her to other people. Whether they can figure it out or not, or if they know who she is or not, really isn't my concern.


I agree. For me, I believe that it's important to start off as friends in non-romantic ways. If or when it's taken to a level of courtship, technically you are still friends. Best friends. That friendship has to always be there, otherwise it's not going to work out. But, yeah, I'm with you. "Boyfriend" and "girlfriend" titles are for grade school and highschool. It's silly watching grown men and women using them (To me it is).

I think every guy I've dated has preferred the term "boyfriend" because when I leave it out or refer to them as my friend they automatically assume I'm trying to pull a fast one and pretend I'm single. I feel awkward using it, but I figure I'm not the only one around who does, so whatever. (I also dislike publicizing my dating life...stupid facebook.) So I do still use it sometimes, but I totally agree with you that it's silly.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I think every guy I've dated has preferred the term "boyfriend" because when I leave it out or refer to them as my friend they automatically assume I'm trying to pull a fast one and pretend I'm single. .

Did you tell them that you could pull a fast one leaving the word "boyfriend" in or out? Actual married couples do it all the time.

If someone wants to call it quits they're gonna do it regardless. It takes two to get together, one to end it.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I think every guy I've dated has preferred the term "boyfriend" because when I leave it out or refer to them as my friend they automatically assume I'm trying to pull a fast one and pretend I'm single. I feel awkward using it, but I figure I'm not the only one around who does, so whatever. (I also dislike publicizing my dating life...stupid facebook.) So I do still use it sometimes, but I totally agree with you that it's silly.

LOL, you're definitely not the only person around who uses it. Most adults do. As long as the two of you are treating each other well and you're respecting each others values and wishes, that's all that matters. If he likes for you to refer to him as your "boyfriend" and it doesn't really bother you, then continue to do it. Relationships are about serving the other person, provided that you're with a respectable man and vice versa.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Did you tell them that you could pull a fast one leaving the word "boyfriend" in or out? Actual married couples do it all the time.

LOL You...---------------------------------------------->corner!

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Did you tell them that you could pull a fast one leaving the word "boyfriend" in or out? Actual married couples do it all the time.

If someone wants to call it quits they're gonna do it regardless. It takes two to get together, one to end it.

I just and say "boyfriend". I prefer to introduce my SO with his name and let the person figure it out, since most people are pretty capable of doing that. I wonder if it's a regional thing since most of the guys I've dated have been from the same general area.

The only one who didn't care was the foreign one. And that was a relief.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Yea, I know it was you. I didn't know if you wanted your habit thrown out here with the rest of ours lol

My FB newsfeed just reminded me of another one: No Homo. I hate that phrase so much, especially when it's used on "non-gay" (for lack of a better term) statements.

Hey, bro, I heard you were sick. I hope you're feeling better. No homo.

What?

LOL meh this isn't the first time I've posted about or alluded to being a smoker on GC. I figure at some point, everyone on GC has something they do that's just wrong. We are human, after all.

Like, take PB for example. He loves chitlins. Seriously?!

No homo is stupid.

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by ThetaDancer

I think I posted this in the thread from last year, but:

"Literally" when used to refer to something that did not literally happen just to add emphasis.

Okay you already said it. My beef as well.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

LOL You...---------------------------------------------->corner!

lol
But I wasn't posting that to be a meanie, I was just being honest with her.

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I just and say "boyfriend". I prefer to introduce my SO with his name and let the person figure it out, since most people are pretty capable of doing that. I wonder if it's a regional thing since most of the guys I've dated have been from the same general area.

The only one who didn't care was the foreign one. And that was a relief.

I dunno, I mean, it doesn't matter to me, it's just a word. It's not like it makes or breaks a relationship. To what degree it's taken, I think it just depends on the person. He just sounds a little insecure. I mean, everyone is insecure to some degree about something. Ya know what I mean? If he doesn't like you to use his first name only, just tell him it could be worse. One of my classmates has been in her relationship with this guy for about 2 years now. Some of the things she tells me about him makes me wonder why she's still with him. To make a long story short, his name is Nick, but whenever she and I are talking about our SOs to each other, she'll refer to her SO as "Dick" at first and, then she'll fake cough and say "cough cough, I mean Nick", as in, he's a dick. lol

Words that I find to be very annoying: I don't like swear words, especially if they're used to put someone else down. I very rarely swear and I don't like being around people who do swear. I mean, I really, really have to be very angry and upset for something to slip out, but that's rare. Or if I tell a joke, or I'm quoting what someone else said, but otherwise I don't swear. I also think the F word is just tacky and degrading. I don't like the B word either. I hear vets use it all the time in some of the clinics I've worked in when they're referring to a female dog, and it still annoys me. I don't use it. I just say male or female dog, even though it is the proper terminology in vet medicine.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol
But I wasn't posting that to be a meanie, I was just being honest with her.


I dunno, I mean, it doesn't matter to me, it's just a word. It's not like it makes or breaks a relationship. To what degree it's taken, I think it just depends on the person. He just sounds a little insecure. I mean, everyone is insecure to some degree about something. Ya know what I mean? If he doesn't like you to use his first name only, just tell him it could be worse. One of my classmates has been in her relationship with this guy for about 2 years now. Some of the things she tells me about him makes me wonder why she's still with him. To make a long story short, his name is Nick, but whenever she and I are talking about our SOs to each other, she'll refer to her SO as "Dick" at first and, then she'll fake cough and say "cough cough, I mean Nick", as in, he's a dick. lol

Words that I find to be very annoying: I don't like swear words, especially if they're used to put someone else down. I very rarely swear and I don't like being around people who do swear. I mean, I really, really have to be very angry and upset for something to slip out, but that's rare. Or if I tell a joke, or I'm quoting what someone else said, but otherwise I don't swear. I also think the F word is just tacky and degrading. I don't like the B word either. I hear vets use it all the time in some of the clinics I've worked in when they're referring to a female dog, and it still annoys me. I don't use it. I just say male or female dog, even though it is the proper terminology in vet medicine.

Well if it was just one guy I'd dated I'd write it off to insecurity, but it's pretty much all of them.

PS-I think the "Dick" thing is funny. Maybe he deserves it? Or maybe they're just the couple that has "that relationship" where neither gets mad when they joke on each other.

I cuss (probably another term that gets made fun of) a lot in person, but rarely when writing since I can proofread before I post/send. It's part of my vocabulary and has been since I've been a teen. I do know it's a bad habit, but...

I AM careful to watch what I say around strangers, people I know are offended by cussing, and of course children. There really isn't an excuse to offend someone for no reason.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I don't like the B word either. I hear vets use it all the time in some of the clinics I've worked in when they're referring to a female dog, and it still annoys me. I don't use it. I just say male or female dog, even though it is the proper terminology in vet medicine.

And in the world of dog people, and in English.

Using "the B word" to refer to a woman = rude and offensive (alhough some people might say not always).

Using "the B word" to refer to a female dog = correct and appropriate. Avoiding it in this context looks like finding offense where none is presumed by definition, none is intended and none is conveyed.

[ree-Xi]

I don't mind the word "boyfriend". My 90-year old grandmother, who has dementia, sometimes confuses me with her other 20-some-odd female grandchildren, and sometimes asks me if I have a boyfriend (I've been married 13 years). When my mom was dating someone for 6 years, we referred to him as her boyfriend. I don't see anything wrong with it. I'd rather someone say that than "significant other" (seems so detached) or "lover" (gag). I guess I'm just old and old fashioned.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Well if it was just one guy I'd dated I'd write it off to insecurity, but it's pretty much all of them.

lol
That's because you keep choosing the same kind of guys. So, it's really not them, it's you.

Originally Posted by MysticCat

And in the world of dog people, and in English.

Using "the B word" to refer to a woman = rude and offensive (alhough some people might say not always).

Using "the B word" to refer to a female dog = correct and appropriate. Avoiding it in this context looks like finding offense where none is presumed by definition, none is intended and none is conveyed.

Huh?? I know what it is. I already said it's approriate in my post. I said in vet medicine. The last time I checked (in the clinics I've worked in), that's "where there are dog people" and "where we all speak English". I just don't like the word. I prefer to use "female dog". Neither way is wrong.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Huh?? I know what it is. I already said it's approriate in my post. I said in vet medicine. The last time I checked (in the clinics I've worked in), that's "where there are dog people" and "where we all speak English". I just don't like the word. I prefer to use "female dog". Neither way is wrong.

I know all that. (And when I said "where there are dog people," I was thinking more about shows/competitions.) People, of course, do speak English outside vet clinics.

I just think it's . . . odd? . . . for someone who deals with animals professionally to avoid the word just because, in other contexts and used with reference to a human, it would be offensive.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I just think it's . . . odd? . . . for someone who deals with animals professionally to avoid the word just because, in other contexts and used with reference to a human, it would be offensive.

Well, if you find it odd, then, okay.