I am to ditto what Lawgirl said.
I know a young woman who went through rush at a competitive SEC school. After the first round, she received only one invitation to the second round. To best honest, she had neither positive or negative feelings about the chapter that invited her back.
She said she could withdraw from rush and take her chances with COB or go through rushing again in the second semester or the next year. She realized that the odds working in favor were slight if she decided to follow those paths.
She decided that she learn more about ABC sorority and decide if she would want to join that sorority if offered a bid. She attended the second round party at ABC, showing interest and asking questions; she said that she tried not to sound too enthusiastic or too eager so she would been seen as desparate.
She was invited back to the third round and preference night events. Needless to say she was offered a bid, which she accepted.
My friend said she had to weigh there options as well as her feelings. For her, the ABC house was pretty nice place, she felt she could live with the members (realizing that she couldn't expect to like everyone and that every member couldn't expected to like her) and that if she wanted a part of Greek life, ABC was the best option.
She added that her decisions might not be right for every young woman or man wanting to participate in Greek life
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