Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010

[ellebud]

Good luck to all!

And I know that this won't surprise anyone: Go Dodgers!

[aumom2010]

Hi,

Glad to join this thread. My daughter, "Cassie" is also a PNM. Today she visited 10 groups and will visit 7 more tomorrow. She said that it was very hot, but a good day. She liked all but about 2 of the groups. Two or three groups made very positive first impressions on her. In general she liked the groups that made an effort to have you meet lots of people more than the groups where you met only one or two members.

On a less positive note, she is very stressed out over her new roommate.
They are polar opposites. The new roomie has already said she likes to smoke, drink and sleep with lots of boys. My daughter is pretty much a straight arrow. Any good advice?

[carnation]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

My daughter is pretty much a straight arrow. Any good advice?

A *straight arrow*? Then she should go Pi Phi.

Just kidding! She needs to quietly confide in her dorm mother; there may be other girls in the same situation or maybe someone in a single who needs a roommate. Good luck!

ETA: We only had to do this once when one of our twins was assigned to room with a girl who was 4 1/2 months pregnant. The girl would have false labor pains and moan and groan all night and after a month, our daughter was a basket case!

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by carnation

A *straight arrow*? Then she should go Pi Phi.

Always thinking, carnation!

Seriously, though, as others have said, this girl needs to speak with her RA about it to at least try to switch to a better situation. The fact is that LOTS of girls smoke/drink/sleep with guys... at least this roommate was nice enough to be straight up about it, I guess! So even if she switches roommates to another "straight arrow" like herself, that doesn't mean the new roomie will remain a straight arrow all year long.

Fun fact: I, like carnation's daughter, had a pregnant roommate. It was actually awesome because she always stayed at her boyfriend's place and basically just used her closet in our room and that was it. Then she moved out when she had the baby and I had the whole place to myself. I don't know why her parents bothered paying for the dorm at all!

[MaggieXi]

BandAid makes really good blister band aids. They stay on and create like a comfort pad in the blister area.

As for the roomate issue - my first roomate was an over the top partier and quickly had a reputation with the boys within the first two weeks of being on campus. I lucked out because one of my suite mates dropped out of school because she was very homesick and just didn't go to class. I ended up moving in with my suitemate and my first roomate roomate moved down the hall with another girl who was a super partier. (sidenote: Both girls ended up getting cut very badly during recruitment - most likely due to their reputation). Your daughter may just want to live with the situation until recruitment is over, and see if other people are dropping out or want to switch rooms. But she should speak with her RA sooner rather than later about the issues.

[AnchorAlumna]

My husband and son hiked 80+ miles at Philmont. Their blister-prevention kit was duct tape! Wonder if they make flesh-colored duct tape?

Yes, go NOW and get the roommate thing straightened out. Another week and they probably won't let you change.

[baci]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

Hi,

Glad to join this thread. My daughter, "Cassie" is also a PNM. Today she visited 10 groups and will visit 7 more tomorrow. She said that it was very hot, but a good day. She liked all but about 2 of the groups. Two or three groups made very positive first impressions on her. In general she liked the groups that made an effort to have you meet lots of people more than the groups where you met only one or two members.

On a less positive note, she is very stressed out over her new roommate.
They are polar opposites. The new roomie has already said she likes to smoke, drink and sleep with lots of boys. My daughter is pretty much a straight arrow. Any good advice?

Good Luck mom to you and your daughter! I hope she finds an org to call home.

As for the roomie, that is a tough one. It all depends on the dynamics at the school and the ability to make changes at this point. I remember I had a "polar opposite" roommate as well. My suitemate and I adored one another and we wanted to make a change. Both of our roommates would not agree to a change. Looking back, there were rough times, but after pledging and finding a new home it didn't matter as much. She will be so busy and life will be exciting with her new sisters. The time moves along rapidly. This is all about growing up, maturing, and life learning experiences. You daughter won't always be able to have things the way she would prefer and the roomie situation is just one of the first to come.
It all works out in the end. Sure, she will have rough patches, but it will be ok. She will survive! lol (After all, she needs some things she can complain about to her mom...just kidding)

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

On a less positive note, she is very stressed out over her new roommate.
They are polar opposites. The new roomie has already said she likes to smoke, drink and sleep with lots of boys. My daughter is pretty much a straight arrow. Any good advice?

Sorry she has to deal with that. I had the same problem my freshman year and it can be brutal. In this case, communication is KEY. If you daughter doesn't want her smoking/drinking/sleeping around in the room, she needs to SAY SO. If her roommate subsequently blows her off, she should check with her residental advisor. Hopefully she won't end up physically removing drunk boys who pass out in her room (and I mean litterally picking them up and dropping them in the hallway) at 3am when she has 7:30 am classes the next day! It's a tough experience, but that's part of college. Just remind her that it's only for a little while and then she'll get to pick her roommates. And pretty soon she'll hopefully be so busy with her new sisters that she won't have time to think about it! Best of luck to her!

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

Hi,

Glad to join this thread. My daughter, "Cassie" is also a PNM. Today she visited 10 groups and will visit 7 more tomorrow. She said that it was very hot, but a good day. She liked all but about 2 of the groups. Two or three groups made very positive first impressions on her. In general she liked the groups that made an effort to have you meet lots of people more than the groups where you met only one or two members.

On a less positive note, she is very stressed out over her new roommate.
They are polar opposites. The new roomie has already said she likes to smoke, drink and sleep with lots of boys. My daughter is pretty much a straight arrow. Any good advice?

aumom - welcome, and good luck to your daughter. Remember that impressions change from day to day, so I hope that the "straight arrow" finds that she likes a kite, a key, an anchor, a quill, a diamond, or any of another of many other shapes, that she also likes (sorry carnation, couldn't resist).

Seriously: the roommate situation needs to be addressed immediately. We are talking about 18 year olds so it might be somewhat scary for your daughter to speak up for herself. I would think that sooner rather than later would be preferable if she needs to make a change. She's not the only one in this situation, I promise you. Encourage her to speak with her RA, and give her lots of support and love this week as she goes through recruitment.

Here's hoping everyone has a great week. I still want to go to Auburn and Alabama and Ole Miss (road trip!) for recruitment; what an experience it sounds (and looks) like.