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[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Well, considering they're going to be on their feet so much, it really is better to not wear the same shoes two days in a row, to let the shoes breathe. Mom33 told me so. Whether that's what Alumiyum was thinking or whether it was for the OMG DO NOT REPEAT reason, she would have to say.

Both. Y'all can roll your eyes all you want, but anyone who thinks this would go unnoticed isn't being truthful with themselves. Whether it would matter or not surely depends on the group. I seriously doubt on my campus (very laid back recruitment and not competitive) it would matter. But on more competitive campuses, it might.

I don't wear the same shoes two days in a row (and I mean shoes that actually go with an outfit, not running shoes or something) period. It's like wearing the same shirt two days in a row.

(And yes, I've had to run a PNM back to her dorm to change shoes because for some reason she didn't realize how bad her feet smelled...it was an awkward conversation, but better to sound like a bitch than to let her go to a party smelling like man feet. That's just as bad as showing up with horrible BO.)

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I don't wear the same shoes two days in a row (and I mean shoes that actually go with an outfit, not running shoes or something) period. It's like wearing the same shirt two days in a row.

That's a personal preference. We all have preferences that differ from those of others.

As for SEC recruitment outfit advice, I understand that people are watching what the young ladies are wearing because that's part of the first impression. I agree with 33girl about letting shoes breathe when you're walking and standing a lot. I just hope someone wouldn't be judged if they chose not to let their shoes breathe, as long as her feet and shoes don't stink.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

That's a personal preference. We all have preferences that differ from those of others.

As for SEC recruitment outfit advice, I understand that people are watching what the young ladies are wearing because that's part of the first impression. I agree with 33girl about letting shoes breathe when you're walking and standing a lot. I just hope someone wouldn't be judged if they chose not to let their shoes breathe, as long as her feet and shoes don't stink.

I'm sure we all hope PNM's are never judged by their outward appearance, but it isn't helpful to act as though that can't or won't happen. It might.

In this case an easy solution would be to run to Target or TJMaxx and find a $15 pair of shoes to wear in between. Presto, cheap solution.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I'm sure we all hope PNM's are never judged by their outward appearance, but it isn't helpful to act as though that can't or won't happen. It might.

Reading all of these recruitment outfit threads made me conclude that we don't all hope PNMs are never judged by their outward appearance.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Reading all of these recruitment outfit threads made me conclude that we don't all hope PNMs are never judged by their outward appearance.

Okkk...well you hope they aren't and I hope they aren't. But personally I'd rather them be prepared in case they are.


And though it's not likely that little things like shoes matter (at least in most normal scenarios) in the "real world", how you look DOES MATTER and people ARE judged by their appearances.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Both. Y'all can roll your eyes all you want, but anyone who thinks this would go unnoticed isn't being truthful with themselves. Whether it would matter or not surely depends on the group. I seriously doubt on my campus (very laid back recruitment and not competitive) it would matter. But on more competitive campuses, it might.

No one on my campus would have noticed the shoes unless they were bright red, or gold hooker heels or something that stood out. I don't think that is about how competitive the campus is, but about how image focused the recruitment is.

And I don't want to hide "image-focused" behind "competitive."

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

No one on my campus would have noticed the shoes unless they were bright red, or gold hooker heels or something that stood out. I don't think that is about how competitive the campus is, but about how image focused the recruitment is.

And I don't want to hide "image-focused" behind "competitive."

Regardless of semantics, there are some places where that will matter. It doesn't matter whether or not it's shallow, it's still a possibility. (And "image-focused" can be part of "competitive". )

I guess I don't see what the big deal is when it's easy to avoid the possibility of shoes being an issue. No one would tell her to wear the same polo two days in a row. Same thing. Just wear something different. No big.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Regardless of semantics, there are some places where that will matter. It doesn't matter whether or not it's shallow, it's still a possibility. (And "image-focused" can be part of "competitive". )

I guess I don't see what the big deal is when it's easy to avoid the possibility of shoes being an issue. No one would tell her to wear the same polo two days in a row. Same thing. Just wear something different. No big.

Of course it's possible, but the shallow part - i was being nice - is independent of the competitive part.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I guess I don't see what the big deal is when it's easy to avoid the possibility of shoes being an issue. No one would tell her to wear the same polo two days in a row. Same thing. Just wear something different. No big.

You assume that everyone compares wearing the same shoes to wearing the same shirt. As I said, that's a personal preference that not everyone shares.

Overall, I understand what you mean in your posts because this is an SEC recruitment for which many of the actives are making their "competitive" recruitment an "image-based" one. None of us can change that from the outside looking in.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You assume that everyone compares wearing the same shoes to wearing the same shirt. As I said, that's a personal preference that not everyone shares.

Overall, I understand what you mean in your posts because this is an SEC recruitment for which many of the actives are making their "competitive" recruitment an "image-based" one. None of us can change that from the outside looking in.

What I mean in my posts is that on some campuses, appearance matters. Whether it's shallow or not isn't the question, and I do not think it is helpful to PNMs to act as though this never happens.

Especially when it's down to shoes. Change shoes. Damn.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

What I mean in my posts is that on some campuses, appearance matters. Whether it's shallow or not isn't the question, and I do not think it is helpful to PNMs to act as though this never happens.

Especially when it's down to shoes. Change shoes. Damn.

Relax?

I mean it's just as easy for us to say "Shoes aren't the important thing. Damn."

And, "Whether it happens or not it's still shallow."

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Especially when it's down to shoes. Change shoes. Damn.

I have to say it is funny to reduce the shoes sidebar to simplistically inconsequential frivolity when even the very nature of recruitment outfit discussions is considered simplistically inconsequential frivolity by some.