How to get more friends in my sorority?

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Originally Posted by caprice89

The "full black" comment was that I am the only person in my sorority that is not Caucasian. However, one other girl is biracial.

I'll take the advice on trying to spend more time with different people and asking them out. Even though when I've tried doing this girls flake out on me. Even my big and my little both had problems keeping dates with me. It was frustrating especially since they were close and hung out with each other more than myself.

In my chapter, everyone is assigned to a committee by exec and I've never been assigned to a committee that I was really interested in.

Overall, I'm just saying there is a lot of favoritism going on and I want to find ways to overlook that and feel like I'm actually welcomed and part of the sisterhood.

Caprice89: How big is your chapter?

PS. You posted last fall that you dropped out of recruitment and was interested in COR. I'm assuming that you did join?

Originally Posted by caprice89

I'm a sophomore and I went through formal recruitment this year and at the end I was very confused and overwhelmed with my experience. No one in my family is Greek and I had no idea what to do at the end of the last round. So, I withdrew out of recruitment and was advised to do informal.

Well, now I really regret that decision because I really really really want to go Greek and I'm afraid that now I won't ever get to join a sorority. I want to do informal but I have no idea where to start, who to ask questions, and how can I try to get in touch with the sororities I'm interested in without seeming like I'm creepy? The ones I want to see are the ones that preffed me so I'm sure it won't be a huge problem if I got in touch with them but... I have no idea where to begin.

Can any of you help guide me in the right direction?

Originally Posted by caprice89

They weren't my original choice and I was afraid and very emotional.
I went through the whole recruitment process except I didn't do the last vote.

It was a very quick decision and the pi chi who told me about informal recruitment who told me she would give more more info hasn't done so. So, I feel like I've been forgotten and was given bad advice. When I could have just finished, got a bid, and not be so depressed right now

Then, you were upset about stereotypes:

Originally Posted by caprice89

So ever since I've joined a sorority I've been paying attention to how people talk about them. I'm getting this feeling that the only sororities that people care about is the ones that have the most attractive girls. I'm starting to feel very self conscious because I've been reading so much stuff that says a good pledge class or house is a sexy one.

I know I shouldn't be worried about this but if I knew this before I probably wouldn't have done it.