Sometimes we say things that we think communicate correctly what we want. However, there are differences. As an example:
As my sister's 60th birthday approached, I asked her if she was having a party (she lives out of state). She said to me "It's not that I don't want a party for my birthday. What I want for my birthday is not to have a party. There is difference."
The horse is dead, you can stop beating it.
Your own posts were a perfect example of not communicating clearly.
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