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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
Haha...right! Just saying. That's what's going on right now, so why not let alums know and not ruin the system for every other chapter where there is not a problem. I can't say I blame them for being upset, but reality is reality.
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Absolutely agree. Why make the mom who's sending her daughter to Noncompetitive Northern U upset and worried when it's not needed? Is there a chance her daughter might not pledge her chapter - yes, of course. But it's more likely to be because she or the group don't dig each other, not because the chapter is farting in the general direction of established policies. I know we had (at my NNU) legacies who cut chapters, but I don't remember ever hearing of a chapter cutting a legacy.
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Originally Posted by carnation
All this is pretty much moot around here because if the chapter likes her, they'll bid her regardless of her mom's level of involvement and if they're lukewarm, she's probably not going to make it through--even if her mom was heavily and locally involved and liked.
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I know one of our chapters had a mom as advisor and her 3 daughters in the chapter, all at the same school. (I don't know if mom was advisor before 1st daughter came along or not.) I can't imagine a situation where they wouldn't have bid daughter #3, although if they HADN'T, there most likely was some glaring reason (like the daughter went all through rush saying how little she wanted to do Greek life) that Mom & daughters needed to wake up and smell the coffee on long before this.
I honestly think, as some people have pointed out, that the daughters self-sabotaging their rushes happens more than anyone realizes. Yep, even the SEC triple legacies. Trouble is the daughters don't know what they're taking away from their moms/sisters by not being straight up with them and saying "I know YOU love ABC, but this chapter/Greek life is not for me."
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