How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by TSteven

2. It is unknown how many of the 220 legacies that did join their legacy sorority would not have been extended a bid to any other chapter. In other words, had they not been legacies, they may not have received *any* bid. To be crude about it, being a legacy was the main reason behind their receiving their bid.

Not necessarily true. Situations like this could have been a case of other chapters cutting said legacy because they assumed she was going to join her legacy chapter. Perhaps if the PNM didn't mention she was a legacy, she'd have pledged elsewhere.

[dgdramadawg]

I know that we've since gotten off on other topics pertaining to legacies, but I wanted to keep y'all posted on the girl and her mom from the original post.

I spoke to the mom and basically just played dumb and said "Oh, is Suzie Q going through recruitment? I would love to write her a rec for DG." Her mom told me that it would be very nice of me to write her one, but that her daughter would not be considering any chapters other than her legacy chapter. We had a nice little chat about the fact that some very nice/pretty/smart/involved girls that we mutually know have not had a great deal of success with that particular chapter, and maybe it might be best to allow Suzie Q to look at all options.

I get the idea that this mom will not allow Suzie Q to pursue any other chapter unless her legacy chapter cuts her. She didn't say precisely that, but that's just the vibe I got by the end of our conversation. At least now I think she understands that it might be important to get recs for other chapters because her dd might not necessarily be a shoo-in for her legacy house. However, with this campus' recruitment coming up VERY soon, it might be too late for her to secure recs for every house.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by AZ-AlphaXi

Interesting statistic from the Auburn recruitment online handbook:In 2009, 714 of our 1114 potential members were legacies. But, only 220 joined a sorority they are a legacy to. The rest joined other groups or did not join at all. Legacies do not have any particular advantage when it comes to receiving bids.

Argghh. A pledge sister's daughter is rushing there this year. Several of us are trying to figure a way to let her know about what AU rush is like these days without hurting her feelings and making her think that we think her daughter's not outstanding. She is outstanding. So are hundreds of others. However, our sister has lived far from AU for many years and doesn't know about the changes. I know what we need to do but selecting the right words is hard.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by carnation

Argghh. A pledge sister's daughter is rushing there this year. Several of us are trying to figure a way to let her know about what AU rush is like these days without hurting her feelings and making her think that we think her daughter's not outstanding. She is outstanding. So are hundreds of others. However, our sister has lived far from AU for many years and doesn't know about the changes. I know what we need to do but selecting the right words is hard.

Yeah, there is no nice way to say that. You just have to be honest, in a nice way.

Even if she is slightly offended by it or doesn't believe you, at least she can't say she never heard it could happen (if it happens that she is cut from Pi Phi).

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by AZ-AlphaXi

Interesting statistic from the Auburn recruitment online handbook:

In 2009, 714 of our 1114 potential members were legacies. But, only 220 joined a sorority they are a legacy to. The rest joined other groups or did not join at all. Legacies do not have any particular advantage when it comes to receiving bids.

The important part of this statistic is that 64% of PNMs these days at Auburn are legacies. This no longer makes you special. It makes you average.

[AZ-AlphaXi]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

The important part of this statistic is that 64% of PNMs these days at Auburn are legacies. This no longer makes you special. It makes you average.

That's exactly what I thought when I saw it.

[DTD Alum]

Originally Posted by AZ-AlphaXi

Interesting statistic from the Auburn recruitment online handbook:

In 2009, 714 of our 1114 potential members were legacies. But, only 220 joined a sorority they are a legacy to. The rest joined other groups or did not join at all. Legacies do not have any particular advantage when it comes to receiving bids.

What was a recent quota at Auburn? With 16 sororities, that means on average each sorority had 44-45 legacies coming through. However, I'd be willing to bet that some of the sororities that are not as omnipresent in the south (Alpha Xi Delta or Sigma Kappa, for example) had less, which probably means that some of the sororities that are highly concentrated in the south (Kappa Delta, Chi Omega or Phi Mu) had significantly more than 45ish.

[aephi alum]

And what about women who are legacies to sororities not represented at Auburn - like, oh, just off the top of my head, AEPhi? My hypothetical younger sister rushing at Auburn in 2010 would be a legacy to an NPC sorority, but she can't exactly pledge that sorority at that school.