Etiquette for Invites

[agzg]

The typical etiquette is to do it the other way around, some are invited to both, others are invited to the reception only. This is usually done in instances where space is limited for the ceremony.

Not inviting friends and acquaintences to the reception is considered "cheap" and a grab at gifts without actually inviting them to celebrate your marriage.

Check out the Etiquette Hell forums - they usually debate the pros and cons of various etiquette rules. This thread may explain my thinking:

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/ind...?topic=79165.0

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by agzg

The typical etiquette is to do it the other way around, some are invited to both, others are invited to the reception only. This is usually done in instances where space is limited for the ceremony.

Not inviting friends and acquaintences to the reception is considered "cheap" and a grab at gifts without actually inviting them to celebrate your marriage.

Check out the Etiquette Hell forums - they usually debate the pros and cons of various etiquette rules. This thread may explain my thinking:

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/ind...?topic=79165.0

Issue is, we aren't 'in need' (not saying it to be snotty if you know what I mean) of a lot of gifts so that's not the case. We have rather large families that are coming from out of town and, those jokers are getting a free meal...LOL. We also have a lot of people that have expressed an interest in coming and as time draws closer I keep looking over and over the list of people we want to invite trying to figure out who we really would like to come and those we would rather not invite. We also know that there are a few who 'say' that are coming that won't show so.....HHMMmmmm

[agzg]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Issue is, we aren't 'in need' (not saying it to be snotty if you know what I mean) of a lot of gifts so that's not the case. We have rather large families that are coming from out of town and, those jokers are getting a free meal...LOL. We also have a lot of people that have expressed an interest in coming and as time draws closer I keep looking over and over the list of people we want to invite trying to figure out who we really would like to come and those we would rather not invite. We also know that there are a few who 'say' that are coming that won't show so.....HHMMmmmm

Check out EHell. You guys might get a lot of helpful tips as you're navigating what I see as the #1 way to piss your friends and family off (getting married).

Keep in mind, too, that you're the hosts of the event and ultimately are in control of the guest list. I was just looking at a sister's wedding pictures this morning - I was not invited - and I don't feel slighted by that. Sure, I wouldn't recommend not inviting your best friend, but most (reasonable) people understand that weddings are expensive and while the bride and groom may absolutely value their friendship with any given person, it's not always possible to invite everyone to the wedding.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by agzg

Check out EHell. You guys might get a lot of helpful tips as you're navigating what I see as the #1 way to piss your friends and family off (getting married).

Keep in mind, too, that you're the hosts of the event and ultimately are in control of the guest list. I was just looking at a sister's wedding pictures this morning - I was not invited - and I don't feel slighted by that. Sure, I wouldn't recommend not inviting your best friend, but most (reasonable) people understand that weddings are expensive and while the bride and groom may absolutely value their friendship with any given person, it's not always possible to invite everyone to the wedding.

exactly and true!!! It's one thing not to invite your best friend but it's that casual aquaintance, that thinks that they are supposed to be at everything that I am somewhat concerned about....hehehe