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[PeppyGPhiB]

GatorKate did not accept the bid to the second choice. She was so consumed by the rejection of her first choice that she failed to see that she DID get her second choice, which she had felt almost equally pulled toward.

GatorKate, hate to break it to you, but your first choice chapter just didn't want you bad enough. That's what it boils down to. Chapters have to turn in their bid lists before Preference round, so their decision about you had already been made by the time you made your comment at Preference. Though the two girls who rushed you really liked you, the decision isn't only up to them. It comes down to where on the list the chapter as a whole puts you, and unfortunately for you they matched with women on their bid list before they got to your name.

If you didn't want your second choice, you shouldn't have listed them on your bid card. There might have been a woman who wanted that chapter as badly as you wanted the other one, but by agreeing to accept a bid from them, you robbed her of that opportunity. Let this be a lesson to you that you should be grateful for the things you get in life. To quote Sharyl Crow, "It's not getting what you want, it's wanting what you've got!"

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

GatorKate did not accept the bid to the second choice. She was so consumed by the rejection of her first choice that she failed to see that she DID get her second choice, which she had felt almost equally pulled toward.

GatorKate, hate to break it to you, but your first choice chapter just didn't want you bad enough. That's what it boils down to. Chapters have to turn in their bid lists before Preference round, so their decision about you had already been made by the time you made your comment at Preference. Though the two girls who rushed you really liked you, the decision isn't only up to them. It comes down to where on the list the chapter as a whole puts you, and unfortunately for you they matched with women on their bid list before they got to your name.

If you didn't want your second choice, you shouldn't have listed them on your bid card. There might have been a woman who wanted that chapter as badly as you wanted the other one, but by agreeing to accept a bid from them, you robbed her of that opportunity. Let this be a lesson to you that you should be grateful for the things you get in life. To quote Sharyl Crow, "It's not getting what you want, it's wanting what you've got!"

We actually turn our bid list in AFTER preference round on our campus. That was how I thought it worked on most campuses? In fact, there are some Chapters on our campus who are up almost all night doing them.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

We actually turn our bid list in AFTER preference round on our campus. That was how I thought it worked on most campuses? In fact, there are some Chapters on our campus who are up almost all night doing them.

Yeah, that's what I thought too. Turning in bid lists before pref would kind of, well, make pref pointless - and it certainly hardly ever is, for the rushees or the sorority members. It's responsible for a lot of turnarounds.

Methinks this is a very splashy thread!

GatorKate, your posts would have made more sense if you would have started "I'm in a chapter I love now, but I just wanted to vent about something that happened the first time I went through rush." People WILL search on all your posts if you're a newbie to find holes in your story.

FWIW, I still wonder if the group I preffed second gave me a bid. Does that mean I wish I would have put them first? No, not at all. I'm just curious.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

We actually turn our bid list in AFTER preference round on our campus. That was how I thought it worked on most campuses? In fact, there are some Chapters on our campus who are up almost all night doing them.

I've never heard of turning it in before pref either, but as we all know, every campus is different. I would wonder how that would work - Peppy?

[AOII Angel]

OMG...after scanning the trainwreck that is the sequined panty hose twin recruitment thread, I think our recent run of trolls is all the same person..."recruitment."

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I've never heard of turning it in before pref either, but as we all know, every campus is different. I would wonder how that would work - Peppy?

If the bid list is submitted before pref, then everyone at pref would be on the bid list somewhere, just not necessarily guaranteed to match depending on where they are on the list.

I would think it would work at campuses with fewer pref parties, maybe two or three. But I honestly can't recall when ours were submitted, nor am I sure at what point it comes down to discussing MS.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

If the bid list is submitted before pref, then everyone at pref would be on the bid list somewhere, just not necessarily guaranteed to match depending on where they are on the list.

I would think it would work at campuses with fewer pref parties, maybe two or three. But I honestly can't recall when ours were submitted, nor am I sure at what point it comes down to discussing MS.

In the campuses where I've worked, it was understood that if you were invited to pref you were wanted - the question was, how badly? (And those campuses all had a max. of 2 pref parties) I don't think it's getting down to MS, since all chapters turn in their lists at the same time - membership selection would concern how they determine who is on their first and who is on their second bid lists. Of course, this was back when dinosaurs roamed the earth and we had to do hand bid matching - THE HORROR! THE HORROR!

[carnation]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Of course, this was back when dinosaurs roamed the earth and we had to do hand bid matching - THE HORROR! THE HORROR!

That sure took a ton of time and the bad thing was that then numerous people were running around town and/or campus who knew where every girl had stood on the bid lists and how each rushee had ranked her preffed groups. Too bad that we couldn't have brought in strangers who were unaffiliated with any of the groups.