Complicated Transfer Question

[33girl]

Originally Posted by midnightrain13

my problem here (experience wise) is I have almost no experience, this was the first year my chapter had formal recruitment so everyone was fairly new to everything and because I kept having issues I only attended a couple philanthropy events, a mixer, and less than a dozen chapter meetings I'd say. Please double correct me if I'm wrong but other than my older sister and our family, I barely got to know anything about the girls or the workings of the sorority in general how is that enough for alumnae organizations or am I misunderstanding them?

Alumnae chapter meetings and activities in general are WAAAAAAAAAAAY more laid back than collegiate activities. Seriously, no one's going to quiz you on who the founders are and nothing is required attendance-wise.

Even if the alumnae chapter you join is one that's heavily involved with things like securing recs and helping collegiate chapters with rush, you aren't going to be pushed into a role that makes you feel uncomfortable. All you have to say is "no" if you don't feel secure doing something and everyone's going to be OK with it. Trust me.

[ASUADPi]

I joined my chapter of initiation and stayed for only one semester at the school because I couldn't afford it.

I didn't transfer to a university (with my chapter) until 3 semesters later. I didn't affiliate (not by choice) I wanted too. It upset me in the beginning but I now realize that I wouldn't have wanted to be a member of the chapter anyways (I won't give details because it paints the chapter in a really negative light). I know now that not affiliating worked out for the best!

Was I disappointed, heck yeah. I refused to even associate myself with ADPi for like 6 months. I was hurt and angry. I had to go alum, but didn't do anything until after I graduated. Once I graduated I began getting involved.

Not having a collegiate experience is not the end of the world. Do I miss that I didn't get one, heck yeah. When my sisters talk about formal recruitment, I can't relate. When they talk about being officers, I can't relate. But in the end it doesn't matter, they are my sisters and they are supportive and really that is what matters.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by midnightrain13

my problem here (experience wise) is I have almost no experience, this was the first year my chapter had formal recruitment so everyone was fairly new to everything and because I kept having issues I only attended a couple philanthropy events, a mixer, and less than a dozen chapter meetings I'd say. Please double correct me if I'm wrong but other than my older sister and our family, I barely got to know anything about the girls or the workings of the sorority in general how is that enough for alumnae organizations or am I misunderstanding them?

There's very little "experience" you need to be in an alum chapter. My alum chapter is 90% social--do you need experience to go to Happy Hours? Holiday parties? Book clubs?

My chapter of initiation was very "hands-off" in terms of being formal and knowing "everything" that there is to know about the sorority. When I talk to friends from other chapters, they know things that I don't. It honestly doesn't change a thing.

If you want to be involved, just join the alumni chapter. Some of my best friends I've made from being involved. It's really up to you.

[ree-Xi]

The only experience "required" to be an active alumna and/or go go to alumnae meetings is that you are an initiated member.

What "experiences" are you worried that you missed, that would affect your participation in an alumnae chapter?

I know that it sucks to be sick and miss things - I've missed a lot from being sick - but it's all what you make of it moving forward.

ETA: none of what "happened to you" changes the fact that once you are initiated into an NPC, you can never be initiated into another. So what is the real issue - not having "experience" enough to join an alumnae chapter, or that you'll miss the collegiate experience and want to rush again?

[MysticCat]

Once again, I miss how many schools used to have organizations for "orphan Greeks."

[tld221]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

ETA: none of what "happened to you" changes the fact that once you are initiated into an NPC, you can never be initiated into another. So what is the real issue - not having "experience" enough to join an alumnae chapter, or that you'll miss the collegiate experience and want to rush again?

:lightbulb: i truly think ithe OP is looking for sympathy in the form of "oh darn, you missed out on the UG Greek experience - you should deactivate and rush all over again at your new school." Which, in more ways than one, weve already said can't happen.

Comparing apples to oranges here, but i became a member my senior year. Do i wish i had more of an undergraduate experience? sure! but i value my alumnae membership too and make the most of it. besides, after a year or two after you graduate, chances are you won't give a hoot about what color this year's rush shirts are, or who's going to XYZ's crush party with whom (i'm going on what i read on GC; i've never done these things).

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Once again, I miss how many schools used to have organizations for "orphan Greeks."

It's such a neat idea. Really.

[DrPhil]

I don't think the OP's issue is orphanage and not wanting early alum status. I think she doesn't want to be in THAT sorority anymore and was looking for an out.

Maybe she'll come around and look back at this one day and laugh, but I must say what I say for anyone who wants to drop out at some level: Don't be a waste of a bid/pledgeship/initiation/ritual/etc.

[Barbie's_Rush]

What's "complicated" about your transfer?

1. You went through recruitment
2. You accepted a bid
3. You completed a new member period
4. You were initiated
5. You are transferring to a school without your sorority.
6. You are now an alumna member of the sorority you joined for life.
7. The end.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Hmmmm....yes, I got it...chose to ignore it....

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

My thoughts exactly.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I don't think the OP's issue is orphanage and not wanting early alum status. I think she doesn't want to be in THAT sorority anymore and was looking for an out.

Maybe she'll come around and look back at this one day and laugh, but I must say what I say for anyone who wants to drop out at some level: Don't be a waste of a bid/pledgeship/initiation/ritual/etc.

This.

[tld221]

i'm holding my breath on the OP's pending flounce.

[DrPhil]

If there isn't an OP flounce, maybe we can get sigmadiva and Titchou to challenge each other to a duel. Challunge!

[Titchou]

Pistols at sunrise!

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Pistols at sunrise!

I don't get up that early during summer!