Don't Judge a Book by its Cover

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Yes. Therefore........

And this topic doesn't have to be about looks. I see it as also about health. For instance, the research and outreach in the Black community is certainly not centered around looks. It is centered around health concerns and getting people to understand why their health may be at risk even if women say you look more handsome with some weight on you or your man says he loves your hugemongous ass.

It doesn't have to be but we know fully well that weight and looks goes hand in hand...we are only realizing within the past 10 years or so how much of an epidemic it is. We can't even look at a celebrity without saying 'oh, she lost weight...oh...she letting herself go." and yeah, let's add that element in there...it's most aimed at WOMEN.

You all get more pressure about your weight than men do...right or wrong???

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I'm not familiar enough with the issues specific to the black community to comment.

Okay and that goes back to "maybe and maybe not," which likely isn't exclusive to the Black community.

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Actually, I'm aware of this. And I believe that your selective response to discussions like this, as well as throwing out "LOL" and "Yes, very good." in an otherwise polite discussion comes off as condescending and counterproductive.

Again, that is your interpretation and assumption of what "yes, very good" and "LOL" were intended to convey. But, since you insist on chasing your own tale () regardless of my intention and where I want this thread to go, I shall say "mission accomplished" to the bolded.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

It doesn't have to be but we know fully well that weight and looks goes hand in hand...we are only realizing within the past 10 years or so how much of an epidemic it is. We can't even look at a celebrity without saying 'oh, she lost weight...oh...she letting herself go." and yeah, let's add that element in there...it's most aimed at WOMEN.

You all get more pressure about your weight than men do...right or wrong???

I remember how people clowned Pierce Brosnan's beautiful wife because she isn't the size she was when they first met. I remember how people clowned Tyra Banks when she gained a little weight. She lost the weight for health reasons and said she doesn't care about people's opinions of her looks.

Would the reaction been the same if Brosnan's wife and Banks were publicized to have gained weight from an illness or medication? I dunno. (That doesn't mean the reaction should be different or that there should be any reaction).