Want to be married by the age of 30?

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

She's overweight and average-looking, but I think she is a fantastic person to be around. She refuses to go online for a date and she just complains that she can't meet anyone that fulfills her qualifications of being "tall, built, a gorgeous face, and smart with a good job". I mean, she will summarily dismiss someone she sees, saying things like "No, I don't want to go and say hi, his nose looks a little crooked" or "He's drinking dark beer, ew!" I'm trying to figure out a way to tactfully say that she should lower her expectations a bit.....

I could find a gazillion guys that do this, yet women are expected to meet their crazy expectations rather than the men lower theirs. I'm so tired of hearing guys point out a woman with a lovely body as "fat!" or a woman with a pretty face as "So not cute!" or "Just OK." Really guys? You, the average-at-best looking sales guy think you "deserve" a Victoria's Secret model? Example: the other day we were over at some friends' house and The Hand that Rocks the Cradle was on TV. One of the guys commented that he thought Rebecca De Mornay was ugly. If you think Rebecca De Mornay is in any way ugly, you have issues.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by jennyj87

I have to tell myself that everyday since I'm never graduating college. But this brings up an interesting discussion.
Out of all my friends in high school versus college, it seems my greek life friends are getting married a lot sooner than my nongreek life friends.

True/false?

But other factors are there too. I'm now in the "south" so apparently you guys get married younger down here? Which I have noticed a lot more people in my classes getting married than ones up north who I went to HS with.

I had no idea people of average college age (18-22) got married in college, then I moved to Idaho and it is normal here. A majority of these kids are Mormons or super conservative Christians, so you have a short engagement and get married to have babies ASAP, and the wedding usually happens after the man gets back from his mission. They finish college and if he goes to graduate school she supports him and if they don't already have kids she stops any outside of the home work when the baby comes. It still freaks me out, who would want to be married in college? A lot of the amazing stuff I did couldn't have happened with a spouse or kids.

Sure there are older non-trads who are in school and married, but marriage before you can buy alcohol, rent a car, or buy a handgun seems so lame and foreign to me.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

I had no idea people of average college age (18-22) got married in college, then I moved to Idaho and it is normal here. A majority of these kids are Mormons or super conservative Christians, so you have a short engagement and get married to have babies ASAP, and the wedding usually happens after the man gets back from his mission. They finish college and if he goes to graduate school she supports him and if they don't already have kids she stops any outside of the home work when the baby comes. It still freaks me out, who would want to be married in college? A lot of the amazing stuff I did couldn't have happened with a spouse or kids.

One of my HS classmates went to BYU and got married at like, 20. Even in my traditional Southern town, people were shocked because usually the girls waited for a year after graduation. But, I guess it was the expected thing to do at BYU. She ended up getting divorced two years later--I guess it had to have been pretty bad to get divorced so soon.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I could find a gazillion guys that do this, yet women are expected to meet their crazy expectations rather than the men lower theirs. I'm so tired of hearing guys point out a woman with a lovely body as "fat!" or a woman with a pretty face as "So not cute!" or "Just OK." Really guys? You, the average-at-best looking sales guy think you "deserve" a Victoria's Secret model? Example: the other day we were over at some friends' house and The Hand that Rocks the Cradle was on TV. One of the guys commented that he thought Rebecca De Mornay was ugly. If you think Rebecca De Mornay is in any way ugly, you have issues.

1000 guys may think she is fine but there will be one who can't stand her...or however that line goes, you know what I'm saying....LOL

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

1000 guys may think she is fine but there will be one who can't stand her...or however that line goes, you know what I'm saying....LOL

True.

And she did look a little...off...at times during that movie. I wouldn't go as far as "ugly," but she certainly wasn't "GAATDAAAMN" fine in that movie.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

1000 guys may think she is fine but there will be one who can't stand her...or however that line goes, you know what I'm saying....LOL