How do NPC/IFC differ from NPHC on the subject of "Perps"?

[als463]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

So, yikes, als463 is a friend with a perp? Oh no, she needs to stage an intervention. I can't be friendly with people who I know to be misrepresenting themselves about something that I consider to be serious.

I agree. I didn't feel it was my place to say anything. Why? Because one of our mutual friends who is a Tri-Delt from UCF knows about it and hasn't said anything to her. I didn't want to step on anyone's toes regarding this. Now, if this was a Phi Mu, there would be a difference because it is my chapter. Don't get me wrong, if I saw a guy sporting Delta Sigma Theta, Tri-Sigma or any other "female" organization, I would ask him about it but, chances are, one of the members of those organizations would beat me to it.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by als463

I agree. I didn't feel it was my place to say anything. Why? Because one of our mutual friends who is a Tri-Delt from UCF knows about it and hasn't said anything to her. I didn't want to step on anyone's toes regarding this. Now, if this was a Phi Mu, there would be a difference because it is my chapter. Don't get me wrong, if I saw a guy sporting Delta Sigma Theta, Tri-Sigma or any other "female" organization, I would ask him about it but, chances are, one of the members of those organizations would beat me to it.

You aren't formally intervening, as in calling the national headquarters. That's your other lousy Tri-Delta friend's job.

You are intervening as a friend. As far as I'm concerned, someone who doesn't understand rules and boundaries regarding that is someone who can never completely be trusted, period. You know her better than I do, though. I just know what my family, friends, acquaintances, and I wouldn't tolerate from each other.