Recommendations vs. Recs?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by homeward*bound

It being the south, I would assume this is similar to what is done in Texas. The sorority alumna will complete her organization's recommendation form for the PNM. If it is a PNM she knows well and wishes to offer more details about, she may also attach what's known here as a letter of support.

This. There's the form (info only) that the alumna fills out, and she can attach a letter of support. If a PNM knows 2 or more alumnae from a sorority, often, one will fill out the form and collect letters of support from the other alumna(e) of the sorority writing recs for a PNM so that all of the info (info sheet, letters of support, photos, transcript, social resume, etc.) are sent to the chapter as one packet instead of the chapter receiving an info sheet, letter of support, photos, transcript, social resume, etc. from each rec writer.

"Rec" and "recommendation" are the same thing, but the difference lies in the info sheet and the letter of support. Collectively, they are a rec/recommendation. I suppose an alumna could just fill out the sheet and not attach a letter of support and it would still be a rec/recommendation, just not a very good one.

[Janieladie]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

This. There's the form (info only) that the alumna fills out, and she can attach a letter of support. If a PNM knows 2 or more alumnae from a sorority, often, one will fill out the form and collect letters of support from the other alumna(e) of the sorority writing recs for a PNM so that all of the info (info sheet, letters of support, photos, transcript, social resume, etc.) are sent to the chapter as one packet instead of the chapter receiving an info sheet, letter of support, photos, transcript, social resume, etc. from each rec writer.

"Rec" and "recommendation" are the same thing, but the difference lies in the info sheet and the letter of support. Collectively, they are a rec/recommendation. I suppose an alumna could just fill out the sheet and not attach a letter of support and it would still be a rec/recommendation, just not a very good one.

Ok- so you would not suggest sending in multiple recommendation forms to the same sorority? For one house on campus, I have 5 or 6 alumni that want to fill the forms out for me. Would this look foolish to submit all of them, or should I re contact them and ask if they would instead write me a letter of support, and only have my mother fill out the legacy introduction form & the recommendation form? Sorry for the question, everything is just so confusing and I don't want to do the wrong thing.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Janieladie

Ok- so you would not suggest sending in multiple recommendation forms to the same sorority? For one house on campus, I have 5 or 6 alumni that want to fill the forms out for me. Would this look foolish to submit all of them, or should I re contact them and ask if they would instead write me a letter of support, and only have my mother fill out the legacy introduction form & the recommendation form? Sorry for the question, everything is just so confusing and I don't want to do the wrong thing.

Do they know you personally (as in they're neighbors or relatives) or are they just old friends of your mother's that "know you" because of your mom?

[Janieladie]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Do they know you personally (as in they're neighbors or relatives) or are they just old friends of your mother's that "know you" because of your mom?

3 of them are old family friends. The other two are my mom's sorority sisters that I don't know too well.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Janieladie

Ok- so you would not suggest sending in multiple recommendation forms to the same sorority? For one house on campus, I have 5 or 6 alumni that want to fill the forms out for me. Would this look foolish to submit all of them, or should I re contact them and ask if they would instead write me a letter of support, and only have my mother fill out the legacy introduction form & the recommendation form? Sorry for the question, everything is just so confusing and I don't want to do the wrong thing.

I would have your mother write the legacy intro form and another of her sister's write the recommendation. Of course, your mother would recommend you, so having another person write the recommendation would mean more.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I would have your mother write the legacy intro form and another of her sister's write the recommendation. Of course, your mother would recommend you, so having another person write the recommendation would mean more.

Especially considering this is Auburn, mom should send in BOTH the legacy intro and a Rec in addition to the friend's Rec. This way the PNM has 2 Recs, not just 1.

At least for my GLO, the 2 forms are very different and are treated differently by the chapters. The purpose of the Intro form is merely to confirm someone is in fact a legacy. It doesn't ask anything about activities, GPA, or whatnot. That's what a Rec form is for. Granted one assumes a legacy mom or grandma would recommend their PNM, but we can't give someone credit without the proper form.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Zillini

Especially considering this is Auburn, mom should send in BOTH the legacy intro and a Rec in addition to the friend's Rec. This way the PNM has 2 Recs, not just 1.

At least for my GLO, the 2 forms are very different and are treated differently by the chapters. The purpose of the Intro form is merely to confirm someone is in fact a legacy. It doesn't ask anything about activities, GPA, or whatnot. That's what a Rec form is for. Granted one assumes a legacy mom or grandma would recommend their PNM, but we can't give someone credit without the proper form.

So you'd prefer the mom send a rec than having her get two sisters to send recs?

[sydney bristow]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

So you'd prefer the mom send a rec than having her get two sisters to send recs?

Kentucky isn't quite as competitive as other SEC schools (don't get me wrong it is very competitive, but Bama, Auburn, Ole Miss, and LSU's recruitments are competitive on steriods) but I think it would be best to have the mom do the legacy introduction and the rec if she wants BUT have another sister (preferably someone who knows the PNM well) to write another rec. Obviously someone's mother is going to recommend them but it would mean more to have another alumna rec. Just my 2 cents anyway.

Also, if your recruitment is in the fall get your recs in ASAP.

If your school has deferred, I'd still have them in maybe within the first two weeks of fall semester because I know some deferred schools will have PNMs over to lunch or dinner and having a rec will probably put on the list for them to call you!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by sydney bristow

Kentucky isn't quite as competitive as other SEC schools (don't get me wrong it is very competitive, but Bama, Auburn, Ole Miss, and LSU's recruitments are competitive on steriods) but I think it would be best to have the mom do the legacy introduction and the rec if she wants BUT have another sister (preferably someone who knows the PNM well) to write another rec. Obviously someone's mother is going to recommend them but it would mean more to have another alumna rec. Just my 2 cents anyway.

Also, if your recruitment is in the fall get your recs in ASAP.

If your school has deferred, I'd still have them in maybe within the first two weeks of fall semester because I know some deferred schools will have PNMs over to lunch or dinner and having a rec will probably put on the list for them to call you!

That's what I was thinking, too, Sydney. Though, if you could only get mom for a rec, I'm sure it would do.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Janieladie

Ok- so you would not suggest sending in multiple recommendation forms to the same sorority? For one house on campus, I have 5 or 6 alumni that want to fill the forms out for me. Would this look foolish to submit all of them, or should I re contact them and ask if they would instead write me a letter of support, and only have my mother fill out the legacy introduction form & the recommendation form? Sorry for the question, everything is just so confusing and I don't want to do the wrong thing.

I would have one alumna be designated to collect the letters of support. You can have them do it all separately, it's just easier on the chapter when all your info is in one place.