Motivate or punish?

[sandiego_DUde]

Perhaps I haven't successfully communicated my intentions. I'm sorry that's the impression you got; I want the best for my guys in both the short-term and long-term and I understand the balance of work and play.

You're right, Susy, we don't have socials or formal, which sucks, so we work with what we have. I don't personally see how building your reputation - at least somewhat - by doing community service is a bad thing. Sure we're known as the "good guys" on campus and we all know what they say about good guys, but I'd rather people think that of me than other things. And yes, at my school we're trying to send the Greek system in a new direction. After the drug bust, the entire Greek system has suffered and we've all had to change a lot to keep afloat. Community service has become an almost "popular" thing.

[SusySorostitute]

Originally Posted by sandiego_DUde

Perhaps I haven't successfully communicated my intentions. I'm sorry that's the impression you got; I want the best for my guys in both the short-term and long-term and I understand the balance of work and play.

You're right, Susy, we don't have socials or formal, which sucks, so we work with what we have. I don't personally see how building your reputation - at least somewhat - by doing community service is a bad thing. Sure we're known as the "good guys" on campus and we all know what they say about good guys, but I'd rather people think that of me than other things. And yes, at my school we're trying to send the Greek system in a new direction. After the drug bust, the entire Greek system has suffered and we've all had to change a lot to keep afloat. Community service has become an almost "popular" thing.

So... do I have this right? There was a drug bust at your school, lots of fraternities were put on probation (or just yours?) Now morale is low because all the former partiers are suffering from the restrictions. The way I see it you have two options. Drop the guys that don't fit into the direction you are trying to take your fraternity, or drop the "I'm the mom and get to decide who deserves what" attitude.

[33girl]

If all this is the case, then market yourself as a service fraternity, not a social one. Get rid of your house (if you have one), lower your local dues (which should be rock bottom anyway, since you don't have mixers or formals), make all events alcohol free and let it be known that philanthropy is your #1 priority. Then you won't end up with a bunch of guys who are disappointed because they thought they were joining a social organization.