Newbie Question?

[33girl]

I will say - whatever you decide to do, please be straight up with the sisters from the closed chapter and let them know your plans. No, this is not required but it is a courteous thing to do. These women are hurting a lot and the last thing they need to hear from a 3rd hand source is "hey, Rosiegal joined ABC's rival! Ha ha ha on ABC!" If you are straightforward and honest, I don't think your former sisters will be upset or mad at you.

If the chapter that offered you a bid is one that you would like to pledge, go ahead and do so.

If you're worried about being "damaged goods" - this really isn't something that anyone on here can tell you absolutely yes or absolutely no on. It also depends on whether you and your pledge sisters are trying to stick together as a "package deal." I know this might seem the easiest, but the fact is you probably didn't all put down the same sororities on your bid cards and girls shouldn't feel like they have to go somewhere they don't feel comfy with out of a sense of loyalty.

Hope this helped a little bit.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I know this might seem the easiest, but the fact is you probably didn't all put down the same sororities on your bid cards and girls shouldn't feel like they have to go somewhere they don't feel comfy with out of a sense of loyalty.

This.

Don't be so stuck on being a "package deal" with the other girls that you accept without even thinking about it.

Ask yourself: "Would I be happy in this chapter even if my NM/pledge classmates didn't join with me?"

You never know what could happen. Girls could decide they don't like it as much as they did your former chapter (that closed), they may decide Greek Life is not for them, they could join and quit.

If you choose to accept this chapter's bid, make sure it's a decision you're making because you like the chapter and can see YOURSELF as a member, not just because they offered you all bids and you want to stay together.

[Rosiegal]

Hello KSUViolet06. Your first post is correct, and yes I am currently thinking about whether to pledge "ABC" or wait until recruitment next year. I'm fairly sure I still want to be involved in Greek Life, it's just hard to not feel a little, I don't know, bitter, about the situation? I still would like to give recruitment a try though.

33Girl-I think you're right. I think it's important to make my sisters aware of my future Greek endeavors. I didn't originally think of that, so thanks.

I think I might wait until formal recruitment so I can get to see all the sororities again, including the one that just offered us bids. I also see your point about not being a package deal. I didn't even think of the fact that we all might have gone to preference day at different sororities. Is there a tactful way to let the sororities know that they can take a chance on me, even without my pledge sisters (if they choose to rush), or is the fact that I'm going through recruitment enough? I need to make sure that I feel comfortable and at home with a sorority, regardless of what the other girls do, because it's MY life. Good points!