UF Recruitment

atoheadlines · #1 04-29-2010, 04:27 PM

I am not being a dick but instead of this girl needing advise she needs to stop bragging and be so thankful that she can go through a competative rush and have active family members. The honest truth is with her being so connected she will get more bids than the average girl. Even if she doesn't pick her moms the other sororities are going like that she has previous Greek females in her family. What looks better to sororities in the initial review than getting a active member to write your recs. Girl you need to just be so thankful you have all this because there are so many girls on here freaking out because they don't have anyone to ask for recs. I am sure you won't have a problem picking the right sorority for yourself.

sydney bristow · #2 04-29-2010, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by atoheadlines

I am not being a dick but instead of this girl needing advise she needs to stop bragging and be so thankful that she can go through a competative rush and have active family members. The honest truth is with her being so connected she will get more bids than the average girl. Even if she doesn't pick her moms the other sororities are going like that she has previous Greek females in her family. What looks better to sororities in the initial review than getting a active member to write your recs. Girl you need to just be so thankful you have all this because there are so many girls on here freaking out because they don't have anyone to ask for recs. I am sure you won't have a problem picking the right sorority for yourself.

This is a lovely example of the incorrect advice theme around GC!

1. She isn't really "well-connected". She's only a legacy to one chapter. Honestly, we as actives (unless we personally know them) don't really care or give more consideration to a girl just because her cousin, aunt, etc is a member. Yes, it looks great to have a greek family, but it's not going to make her invincible.
2. What are you talking about "getting an active to write you recs"? There are many orgs that do not allow recs to be written by actives, they have to be written by alumnae.
3. SHE WON'T BE GIVEN MULTIPLE BIDS. This is not fraternity recruitment. That one always irks me. You get ONE bid (if you're lucky)!
4. She won't be "picking a sorority" for herself. PNM's too often think that it's basically just picking which one they want...we have to pick you too!

OP, none of this is directed at you, I wish you the best! Just be wary of incorrect (and frankly, unintelligible) advice.

Another thing, don't go through the houses where you have "connections" and talk about them. I find it a little off-putting when a PNM is like "well yeah my cousin was an XYZ sooo..." in a strange context...chances are if your cousin or whomever wrote you a rec we know about it!

Anyway, good luck and hoping to hear that you found your home come fall!

agzg · #3 04-29-2010, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by atoheadlines

I am not being a dick but instead of this girl needing advise she needs to stop bragging and be so thankful that she can go through a competative rush and have active family members. The honest truth is with her being so connected she will get more bids than the average girl. Even if she doesn't pick her moms the other sororities are going like that she has previous Greek females in her family. What looks better to sororities in the initial review than getting a active member to write your recs. Girl you need to just be so thankful you have all this because there are so many girls on here freaking out because they don't have anyone to ask for recs. I am sure you won't have a problem picking the right sorority for yourself.

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Still Syndey all I am saying is if you are lucky to have members still in the sorority you have a greater chance of joining because you have a bond already and can learn more about it easier. She can join already have been mentored about the organization by having family in it already.

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Don't act like you girls don't talk. You are gonna be like my cousin Sally is going through rush and are gonna point her out and everyone is gonna know she is so and sos family member. More than likely if the sorority doesn't give her a bid then it is gonna be drama with the member because her family didn't get in. Greek life is never as blind and fair as we pretend. There are always those who get by in life by who they know not what they achieve.

I'm sorry, and how many bids have YOU been extended through formal sorority recruitment?

You are being a dick. Shut the fuck up.