Is rushing out of the question for me?

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by wide-eyed

Holy Jesus. This is going to be my last post on this thread only because it's clearly deteriorated into a bashfest, for no reason. I'm not even offended, I just can't figure out why it's so hard for so many people to understand.

Here are a few examples of some responses I was expecting:

"I go to blank university and only knew of two juniors who received bids, so it's not impossible but it will be very difficult."

"It depends on the school but I think, the fact that you chose other activities before rushing for two previous years, is a negative aspect."

"I think being involved around campus will be to your benefit."

"I think you need to read the other similar threads." (To which I would have responded the same way I have been: "I already have.")

"It's always an advantage to be a freshman with a high GPA."

"You're hopeless, if you still don't know what to expect."

"what school/ how competitive are you talking about? Is your GPA high?"etc........

I certainly wasn't hoping for rainbows, but I was crossing my fingers for people to respond AFTER reading the OP.

Alas, you win, I give up.

Yes, Juniors can receive bids. Happens all the time.

Yes, Juniors get cut and do not receive bids. Happens all the time.

We can't give you that here. We can't say "No, you are screwed" or "Yes- you have a shot!" because we don't know your specific school, the chapters involved, etc. We don't do (real) blanket responses regarding individual chances.

The first advice you received was great:

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

It depends on which school. Search your school and see if you can find people here who attend and PM them...you can also call your Greek Life office. They will probably try to sugar coat it, but just ask them up front.

Only people who know the school can give you a realistic picture of it. I can tell you how my school was, but that doesn't help you. The only thing we can tell you for sure, given what we know, is that you won't know unless you try. Good luck to you.

[33girl]

I'm so so sorry we got all Tyler Durden on you and told you you are not a unique snowflake.

I'm so so sorry that there isn't a thread that says "If you are a junior rushing at the University of Southern Mississippi, if you have written for the school paper and played volleyball on the second newest dorm's intramural team, and if your GPA is 3.25, you have approximately a 75.32659951% chance of receiving a bid to your first choice and a 82.264568765165% chance of receiving a bid in general. Proceed accordingly."

If you want to "out" your school, go ahead, but the majority of GCers are not going to ask you that straight out. The general belief on here is that it's good to encourage PNMs to be discreet about where they're rushing, especially if they are in unique circumstances.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by wide-eyed

Holy Jesus. This is going to be my last post on this thread only because it's clearly deteriorated into a bashfest, for no reason. I'm not even offended, I just can't figure out why it's so hard for so many people to understand.

Here are a few examples of some responses I was expecting:

"I go to blank university and only knew of two juniors who received bids, so it's not impossible but it will be very difficult."

"It depends on the school but I think, the fact that you chose other activities before rushing for two previous years, is a negative aspect."

"I think being involved around campus will be to your benefit."

"I think you need to read the other similar threads." (To which I would have responded the same way I have been: "I already have.")

"It's always an advantage to be a freshman with a high GPA."

"You're hopeless, if you still don't know what to expect."

"what school/ how competitive are you talking about? Is your GPA high?"etc........

I certainly wasn't hoping for rainbows, but I was crossing my fingers for people to respond AFTER reading the OP.

Alas, you win, I give up.

If you would have really read the other threads, then you would have seen all of the above comments within them. That is why the advice to "do a search" was the best advice. Why should people have to answer the same question 90+ times? That is why people are frustrated with you. The "answers" that you are looking for are already out there in the threads that you claim to have read.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by wide-eyed

This is going to be my last post on this thread only because it's clearly deteriorated into a bashfest, for no reason. I'm not even offended, I just can't figure out why it's so hard for so many people to understand.

Likewise, we can't figure out why it's so hard for you to understand that you ARE getting answers - answers similar to those you expected. Various posters have told you that we don't know. That it depends on your school. You've been directed to other threads on GC. For whatever reason, none of these answers is satisfactory to you.

You've gotten as much help as GC is willing to provide. Best to let this go, now. Good luck with recruitment.

Oh, and your flounce is showing.

[agzg]

If you knew the answers, why did you ask the question?

[woahwoah]

LOL wide-eyed, the lesson to be learned here is:

if 2+ users with join dates preceding 2009 make any comments that you do not agree with or feel are being sarcastic/rude...
don't even try with a comeback. you WILL fail. miserably.

This coming from a fellow recent member

[KSUViolet06]

LOL @ all the possible responses she wanted being somewhere in all of the 90 threads she says she read.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by wide-eyed

I don't know the answers. I know what has been said to other people, but what I'm looking for is a reaction to my situation. I know it must be annoying to see me repeat the same things over and over, but I just don't think anyone is understanding me....

I'm trying to figure out if (generally, or to narrow it down for you, in a competitive school), having done other activities instead of join a sorority, has put me at a disadvantage compared to, for example, another girl is also a junior but didn't have the option to rush before. Do you understand?

I was doing a sort of general survey, in which I was hoping people would post their initial reaction. Which now that I say that... I guess that's what people did, but I wanted them to realize that I have read the other threads, and I'm not just trying avoid reading. If it's so annoying to answer questions that have already been asked, why not just leave it alone?

I'm not being sarcastic or anything, I'm asking these questions seriously.

Do you possibly understand that not only have your "questions" been answered in this thread, they've been answered in COUNTLESS other threads. You are not unique!

PMing me about it is not going to get you a different answer!

[TrueStar]

AzTheta: Yep, I'll be sure to write a post on it.

wide-eyed: As a non-traditional PMN, I can tell you that there is still so much knowledge to be gained from this forum. Keep in mind though, it's general knowledge. There is a fantastic thread someone linked to early on that has lots of information on what to do and expect when you rush.

Seriously, take some time and read it. You won't know what your chances of getting a bid are until you actually try, but at least you can be better prepared to do well.

[SWTXBelle]

As I tell my children and my students:
IF I TELL YOU I DON'T KNOW, I DON'T KNOW.
I am not hiding information, I am not waiting until you beg and plead;
I DON'T KNOW.

Of course, my children in question are 7 & 8, and the students 12 - 14.

[KSUdamsel]

Rut ro...

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by KSUdamsel

Rut ro...

This newb already gets it. Good job.

I'd also like to point out that if you ask nicely and respond nicely, you get nice back. If you're snarky, that's what you get.

There are several new posters here who have gotten nothing but helpful replies from posters (ex: KSUdamsel and others).

[Tippiechick]

Ok, I'll play...

I am guessing you're going to Clemson. (ACC school in SC kinda gives it away...)

If you wanted to rush, you should have done it as a freshman or sophomore. Unless your school has an upperclassman quota, you will be looked at as a burden. Why? You'd be taking up a space in the group that could be filled by someone for four years. If you get in, they will have to rerush to fill that same spot in 1-2.

Being desperate only adds to your likelihood of going bidless. You can smell desperation on a pnm like the stink of skunk on a hot day.

Now, those are only generalizations. Why? Because I don't know shit about you and could be totally wrong. But, my guess is that it's gonna be difficult.

Also, don't give me the crap about, "I wanted to wait until I could give my sorority my full attention." That just means that being in a sorority wasn't enough of a priority. TRUST ME -- you go in saying that and you'll sink your chances. No one likes to hear excuses that basically show that rushing was not high enough on your list to merit rushing.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Ok, I'll play...

Doth mine eyes deceive me?

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Doth mine eyes deceive me?

I know, peep. Right? Long time no see It takes a lot to bring me out of the woodwork