To Wait or Not To Wait: That is the Question

[KSUViolet06]

My dad always said, you can spend x dollars on your wedding, but everything over x dollars is on you and future hypothetical hubby.

I fully plan to take 10% of our x dollars and go to Vegas, then put the rest of the money toward our future home. If you have big wedding 'dreams' then I am not the kind of girl you need to be with.

I don't even think I'd consider dating someone whose idea of starting a life together = taking out a loan for our wedding. That tells me that he has no sense of financial priorities and that in a few years, we'll have bigger problems than that. lol.

[jdrama]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

My dad always said, you can spend x dollars on your wedding, but everything over x dollars is on you and future hypothetical hubby.

I fully plan to take 10% of our x dollars and go to Vegas, then put the rest of the money toward our future home. If you have big wedding 'dreams' then I am not the kind of girl you need to be with.

I don't even think I'd consider dating someone whose idea of starting a life together = taking out a loan for our wedding. That tells me that he has no sense of financial priorities and that in a few years, we'll have bigger problems than that. lol.

TRUE!

I don't even want my parents to pay for my wedding because I have siblings that are 9 and 10 so they'll be in college. They can pay for that.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by epchick

His logic was, if we could make it to 5 years, then we would probably make it a whole lot longer.

My problem wouldn't even be delaying the shindig. Honestly, I'm aware that most marriages fail in the first 5 years but can you NOT sound like you're starting me off on a 5-year probation?

I like whoever said she'd be DIYing her wedding. That's ditto for me, I already know what kind of decorations I'd want because they are things I've made in the past. I feel like I'd enjoy the day more if the things I'm looking at came from my own hands. Hopefully, by the time I finally get married I'll be in a place where I can pay for "nicer" things just in case mine tank.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

My problem wouldn't even be delaying the shindig. Honestly, I'm aware that most marriages fail in the first 5 years but can you NOT sound like you're starting me off on a 5-year probation?

Right? Like let's not start off this wedding anticipating a big FAIL. I can understand why people want to wait (I have 2 sorority sisters that did that, and friends of the family just had one after being married for 10 yrs) and have a big wedding later, but let that be a mutual decision--I can wait for the first year, but not for 5!

I guess I should have expected that LB's first marriage (yep he was married before, but no kids supposedly) lasted only 4 years. Maybe he kicks 'em to the curb before they get that big 5 year wedding.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by epchick

Maybe he kicks 'em to the curb before they get that big 5 year wedding.

Talk about a budget cut!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by epchick

I guess I should have expected that LB's first marriage (yep he was married before, but no kids supposedly) lasted only 4 years. Maybe he kicks 'em to the curb before they get that big 5 year wedding.

LOL, that reminds me of Tom Cruise dumping Nicole Kidman a week (or maybe it was a month) before the 10 year anniversary/community property thing kicked in.