little question about alums visiting the chapter

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

let the advisors handle this-i can promise you that they have their fingers on the pulse of the chapter and should be there as unbiased observers. this candlepass should not happen unless advisors are present.

Lane-swerving just to comment on the bolded.

I find it interesting that advisors are present at candlepasses. This wasn't customary in my (KD) chapter. I can definitely see the benefits of having an advisor attend such activities, though.

/end lane-swerve

[SthrnZeta]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Lane-swerving just to comment on the bolded.

I find it interesting that advisors are present at candlepasses. This wasn't customary in my (KD) chapter. I can definitely see the benefits of having an advisor attend such activities, though.

/end lane-swerve

If it's to air dirty laundry and get some stuff out there, then yes an advisor should be present (we had a similar situation when I was in college and our GA attended it and moderated it). But if the girls really wanted to do something on their own, they'd find a way not to get an advisor involved, I'm sure. As far as having a candle pass for getting engaged, etc. then obviously an advisor doesn't need to be there for that and that's when I would feel like I was intruding unless I was invited to attend.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Lane-swerving just to comment on the bolded.

I find it interesting that advisors are present at candlepasses. This wasn't customary in my (KD) chapter. I can definitely see the benefits of having an advisor attend such activities, though.

/end lane-swerve

the advisors are at a "dirty laundry/airing grievances" candlepass merely to moderate, as sthrnzeta said. at the end of the candlepass, the g.a. might sum it all up or help end it on an upbeat note. this type of candlepass are usually quite cathartic, and everyone is happier afterward-we women can be quite odd at times!

[hruffel]

Thank you for your input. I found out that there was a candle pass as I was walking over to the event there were doing. They had a good big little where the littles gave their bigs their paddles. I was invited by a few sisters. They were told they were having a candle pass but didn't know for what untill after the event happened. The president nor the advisor was there.nothing bad was even said during it other then some sisters saying they wished people came to more events and to support one of the sisters by going to a few of her home rugby games.I guess no one other then her big went to her games and she wished that sisters would come to her games. It didn't bother me that I wasn't allowed I was just confused because I was told by the chapter that I was allowed to go to any event they had.